Her Boyfriend Decided To Move To A New Country With His Female Coworker And She’s Telling The Internet He’s Basically Ready To Leave Her Behind
A 25-year-old woman says that her 27-year-old boyfriend is so close with his 28-year-old female coworker that the two of them applied for a job in another country without considering her.
Now, she feels like her boyfriend is ready to leave her behind because he is fully making this move with or without her.
She explained that her boyfriend and his female coworker are partners at work, and they have been working with one another for under one year.
Although her boyfriend hasn’t known his female coworker for very long, they pretty much are best friends.
“She doesn’t have many friends or a boyfriend of her own, so she relies heavily on my boyfriend for emotional support and has started to feel like an extension of our relationship,” she said.
“Although she’s not someone he’d ever be romantically interested in and he’s made that clear to me several times, I still can’t help but feel weird about it.”
Her boyfriend’s relationship with this woman does not feel completely professional to her, and they spend most of their weekends with one another on top of the crazy hours that they work together.
She has mentioned to him in the past that the relationship he has with this woman does not make her very comfortable, and he assured her that they’re just friends.
Her boyfriend and this woman are also a team at work, and several months into 2021 they figured they were miserable at their company.
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
So, the two of them submitted their resumes for a new job in a completely different country on the other side of the world.
Well, it turns out her boyfriend and this woman landed the job, and after a year of being remote, they’re going to be moving.
What really bothers her is that her boyfriend never once considered her in any of his decision-making.
Her boyfriend only mentioned it briefly before he applied, but then he accepted the job and never ended up sitting down to talk with her about what this now means.
She truly gets that her boyfriend needs to make this move in his career, but she is not a fan of the country he’s going to be living in.
She’s feeling pressured into finding a job there too, and she thinks she doesn’t have the experience needed to land one.
“He told me that if I can’t find a job, then we’d do long distance until we figure it out (which we have already done for almost 2 years on a smaller scale, not in different countries and it’s been really hard) but the thought of him up and moving to a different country with another woman makes me feel so sad,” she explained.
“He’s going to experience everything the first time around with her, not me.”
“We have dreamed of moving abroad together since we first met – but it feels like he loves working with her and who she is, so much that he invested and secured a future with her first, before considering our future together.”
This was not a decision she was actively part of; it really was a decision between her boyfriend and his coworker.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“When your boyfriend makes plans to move to another country with another woman without consulting you, you’re definitely in the emotional affair arena.”
“This may come across as harsh, but if I were you, I’d seriously consider your relationship. A partner who truly loves you would sit you down and have a serious, lengthy conversation about his plans.”
“You said the long-distance thing sucked. I don’t see how long distance a second time will be any better.”
“There are other people out there who would prioritize you in a heartbeat. Realize that you are worthy of that.”
“He wants you to stick around while he works remotely where you are, and then he’s basically done with the relationship unless you uproot yourself and move to a place you don’t really want to move to.”
“Chances are that your relationship will end very shortly after you give up everything you have now to move to him.”
“This isn’t even about the other woman. He expects to put his ducks in a row, and then inform you of what is to be done.”
“That’s really not how it works. You have a say in all of this and honestly, you can do sooooo much better.”
“I’m so sorry, he keeps telling you through his words and actions that you are not a priority. It’s time to start believing him.”
“He is making huge decisions without any regard for you or your relationship and saying that you all will figure it out later.”
“Separate from the other woman who is definitely a giant concern, his lack of considering where you fit into his future is so telling.”
“I know it’s not easy to end a longer-term relationship but you need to start thinking about what your life looks like without him. You deserve more and better.”
You can see the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.
More About:Uncategorized
Read This Next
