His Fiancée Told Him Out Of The Blue That She Wants To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife So He’s Telling The Internet He Called Her Lazy
A 42-year-old man thinks he is engaged to “the one” and she’s 33. They dated for a little more than 3 years before he popped the question to her a few weeks ago.
They started wedding planning right away, and last night, his fiancée asked him out of the blue if she could just be a stay-at-home wife.
His response was to laugh out loud after she said this to him since he figured it had to be some kind of joke.
She has always been so ambitious, and that’s something that he has always found so attractive about her.
It turns out that it’s not a joke at all, and his fiancée genuinely wants to do this for the rest of her life.
Now, he makes around 40% more money than she does, but they both are well-off at this point in their lives.
He knows that if she just quits her job, there is no way they can maintain the way that they live on his income alone.
His fiancée seems to think they can cut back on their spending and get by, but this really isn’t possible and he knows it.
When he questioned her on why she wanted to be a stay-at-home wife, her reply was, “It’s been on my mind a lot – I think working 9-5 just isn’t for me.”
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“I said that I’m not comfortable with that idea and said maybe if we have kids she could be a stay-at-home mom but I’m not cool with her being a stay-at-home wife and she said that I was being “manipulative” since we’re both child-free,” he explained.
He only threw that out there as a potential option, but he really does not want to be the only person in their household making any money.
Well, things went downhill from there and they both got into one heck of a disagreement. She accused him of not being supportive of her dreams, even though he has zero idea what she plans on doing while home alone all day.
In the end, he told her that clearly, her dream was to just “be lazy”, so she packed up some things and went to stay with her mom.
“I’ll be real here, I don’t want her to be a stay at home wife, I’m not okay with being the sole breadwinner, and I do not wish to support this “dream” – I want a partner in life, not a dependant doing nothing productive with their days,” he admitted.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“So she waits until you propose and she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger to tell you her “dream” of being lazy and then has the nerve to say that you’re the manipulative one? Jesus.”
“…This is your get-out-of-jail-free card. Take it and run because she’s pulling the old bait-and-switch on you, and she’s not even smart enough to do it after the wedding.”
“I was a stay-at-home mom, and no one would have called my job easy. A stay-at-home wife? What in the world? Does she… clean up after herself?”
“Visit with friends? Ask her if your “dream” was to be a stay-at-home husband, could you do it? This is CRAZY! And if I was (him), I’d be rethinking getting married any time soon.”
“If she doesn’t understand where he’s coming from, I’m betting she’ll just quit or get herself fired once they’re married.”
“Lol, “support her dreams”. If my husband had a dream to go back to college I would support that. If he had a dream to start his own business in an area he was passionate about I would support that.”
“If he had a dream to sit on his arse and play video games – be a ‘stay at home husband’ – he would soon be supporting my dream to be divorced.”
“It sounds like you and your fiancée have very different values in life.”
“Maybe she has a dream to play tennis in the mornings and lunch with different friends every day.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to him here.
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