Her Husband’s Female Employee Bought Her Husband Underwear Knowing That She Would Get Upset Over It
A woman is married to her husband, and he’s a wonderful man. Her husband is good-looking, kind-hearted, hard-working, and generous.
She does feel terribly insecure about her marriage, but it has nothing to do directly with her husband.
Regardless, she’s worried about her husband cheating on her, and she’s worried about different women in his life.
This really has a lot to do with how she grew up; her mom and dad constantly put her down for how she looked, and they always told her nobody would ever find her desirable because of her weight.
On top of that, they kept buying junk food to feed to her, and they knew about the eating disorder that she had, but pretended it didn’t exist.
Those aren’t the only things that contributed to her insecurities though.
“2 exes cheated, and I almost killed myself over the last one over 15 years ago… I can’t even remember that year of my life clearly because it was so traumatic,” she explained.
“Still, 100% of conversations about my assumptions regarding other women are had with my OWN issues in mind and I don’t make accusations or argue, just discuss (as much as possible. I’m not perfect).”
Her husband always does his best to try to accommodate her insecurities, and he attempts to make her feel better about herself.
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Anyway, her husband has a female employee that she is not a fan of at all. As soon as she was aware of this woman she considered her to be threatening.
This woman is gorgeous, she’s young, and she also is in a relationship with someone who most definitely cheated on her.
The only reason she had for feeling threatened by this woman has nothing to do with her husband’s behavior or this woman’s behavior; it was all in her own head.
For some reason, her husband told this woman about how insecure she was during a day at work.
She knows her husband wasn’t thinking about how humiliating it would be for her to have this other woman be aware of her feelings, and she doesn’t think he did it to be mean.
Although her husband’s employee now knows about her feelings, she chose to have a company gift exchange and intentionally bought her husband a gift knowing it would upset her directly.
“SHE created a gift exchange and chose him as her recipient, and bought him underwear,” she said.
“The joke was “your wife is going to be mad about this.” There is an innocent back story about how a child suggested the gift and that was amusing, but actually buying it with the joke being “let’s mess with your wife’s insecurity and anxiety” is incredibly mean spirited.”
She did talk to her husband about the gift, and he did get where she was coming from. Her husband also turned around and told his employee she could not do something like that again, though she thinks he could have done more.
She suspects her husband and his employee don’t really have any boundaries considering this occurred in the first place.
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“He didn’t explicitly stand up for me when the joke was to try to hurt me,” she continued. “He wasn’t clear about why it was not ok and what to never do again.”
“He’s extremely non-confrontational and is a man of few words so I mostly believe that was what was said, but I still don’t feel good about this POS woman making my worst fears the butt of a joke, then continuing to be his work buddy.”
“I’m limited in what I can actually say or do but I honestly hope she feels the same way about herself someday and some absolute moron like her comes along to ruin her holiday as well.”
She definitely doesn’t want to intervene in a way that causes her husband to have zero friends at work or jeopardizes his job, but there’s no way she’s ever going to be nice to his employee ever again in her life.
She’s left wondering what to do and how she can go about moving on from this while not feeling so wound up and upset.
How would you handle this situation?
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