She And Her Husband Were Left Caring For His Autistic Niece And She’s Telling The Internet She Can’t Care For This Girl Anymore

A woman’s 30-year-old husband recently became the legal guardian of his 17-year-old niece just two months ago.

Her husband’s sister was a single mom to his niece, but she passed away last year and then his niece went to his mom and dad’s house.

As her husband’s parents are getting too old to take care of her, she was then given to her husband, even though she was very concerned about this.

Her husband reassured her that he was going to be responsible for taking care of his niece so she wouldn’t have to worry.

She and her husband dated for 15 years before tying the knot last year, and she previously worked a very successful job that required her to travel extensively.

After she got married to her husband though, their plan was to have a baby and have her stay at home.

So, she quit her job several months after they got married after she learned she was pregnant. She sadly miscarried, and then her husband’s sister passed away so she began working part-time.

“My SIL was a nurse,” she explained. “She quit her job to take care of her daughter full time.”

“Her daughter has a variety of issues including non-verbal autism, a series of developmental disorders like dyslexia, and severe sensory issues.”

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“My husband says that he does most of the work. But he doesn’t. Since I am working from home part-time most of the caretaking falls to me.”

“She gets angry and has meltdowns all the time. She doesn’t like the food I make and most of the time she ends up throwing food at the floor or at me.”

“I am at my wit’s end and it is just so emotionally exhausting.”

On December 15th, her husband wound up having to work late, so he asked her if she could feed his niece dinner.

Her husband’s niece is very difficult when it comes to food since if it changes in texture or taste, she won’t eat it and she will meltdown.

She tried to feed her husband’s niece dinner that evening, and it did not go well at all.

“She threw the plate at my feet and I ended up bleeding,” she said. “At that point, I called my husband and asked him to be home asap.”

“He said he wouldn’t be able to. I went up to my room and told him I am not dealing with this anymore. He came hours later and she was still crying. He was absolutely furious at me.”

Her husband accused her of being irresponsible and heartless, so she said she was done and packed up to go to her mom’s house. She let her husband know she would be gone until the New Year.

Since she left, her husband called her up every single day begging her to come home. She eventually did return, and she let her husband know that she got her old full-time job back and it’s starting in a few days.

“It is in-office and requires a lot of travel,” she continued. “He asked me who was supposed to stay at home as she cannot be left alone, he has no more leaves and full-time caretakers are too expensive.”

“I told him he promised to take care of everything when he became her guardian and that it was his problem.”

Now, her family and his family are aware of this, and her family is on her side…but her husband’s family thinks that she’s awful for doing this.

Here’s what the internet had to say.

“Your husband likes being the hero but doesn’t have a clue as to how to do the actual work so he just left it all to you. You have been sorely taken advantage of and I don’t think you are qualified to handle this level of need. Your niece needs expert help.”

“It has also given you a preview of what parenthood will be, you do the work, he gets to enjoy the hour or two of happy, fed, and bathed child that he can play with and hand back.”

ResoluteMuse

“I also would suggest to him that he asks all his family members he “tattled” about you to, to step up and help pay for a full-time caretaker to help solve this family dilemma.”

“He took the responsibility of caring for his niece, and it is on him to find a solution that does NOT involve shoving all the work, stress, and drama onto you.”

“Good luck and enjoy working the job of your choice, not one you’re gaslight into accepting.”

PopieClater

“This is a really difficult situation but your husband lied and said he’d take care of her completely and then left it to you.”

“You were unprepared for this level of caretaking and it doesn’t sound like he gave you a choice at all. He accepted responsibility for her, and so he has to figure it out. Ultimately it may mean that the relationship between you no longer works.”

“Either way, there are some serious discussions that need to take place and I wish you all well.”

CrystalQueen3000

“Taking care of a child with special needs is a HUGE responsibility and your husband took it on saying the same thing a kid does when he wants to adopt a pet.”

“You are not heartless, you are doing your best with an extremely difficult situation. I’m so sorry about your miscarriage. That, in addition to this other huge life change, has been a huge stress.”

“Your niece deserves a safe home with people equipped to help her, you deserve space and time to heal, and your husband needs to look at the possibility of changing what he needs to in order to fully fulfill the responsibilities he’s taken on.”

“I’m sorry for his loss too, this whole situation sounds very very difficult and I hope you all come through it ok.”

AttitudeExtreme

You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.

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