Chip Chick
“I don’t have bio kids, but when my husband says no more placements, I listen; kids should get the same respect.”
“I can fully appreciate that your ex and his wife want the opportunity to adopt a child, but most of the people I’ve worked with stop after two foster experiences because it is so, so hard on everyone in the family.”
“The court will bend over backward to return the child to his birth family. I’ve seen children put into foster care, spend years there, get returned to their birth families, stay for two years, then back to foster care.”
“The system is screwed up and it’s likely to remain so. You are wise to be concerned about your children’s mental health.”
“What they’re doing is amazing. But, here’s the thing: it’s hard on your kids and as their parent, it’s your job to advocate for them.”
“You’re right that your ex and Vanessa can foster later. They’re doing a good thing for those kids who they foster; it’s just hard for their own kids.”
“It is not your children who don’t understand the reality of fostering, it is your ex and Vanessa. I was the biological child in an emergency foster family and was there as dozens of children came in and then out of my home.”
“And yes, I was upset every time they left, but not heartbroken because I had been prepared. I had been taught that the point of fostering these children was so that one day, they got to go back to their mommies and daddies.”
