His Girlfriend Wants A $35,000 Engagement Ring And She Blows Her Money On Designer Items So He’s Thinking Of Ending Things

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A 29-year-old man is currently in a relationship with his 27-year-old girlfriend, and he’s been with her for more than 5 years.

2 years ago, he asked his girlfriend to move in with him in an apartment that he happens to own. He never once required his girlfriend to pay him rent, and he also pays for all of the expenses his apartment incurs all by himself.

He was hoping that by allowing his girlfriend to live with him rent-free, she would be able to save enough money to purchase her own apartment as an investment for herself.

Now, in the last 2 years that his girlfriend has lived with him, she has been spending money like crazy on luxury items.

She buys coats from Burberry, jewelry from Cartier, and all kinds of designer bags. In all, she’s spent at least $10,000 to $15,000 on her designer buys.

Then the topic of engagement rings came up, and he was shocked to hear what she wanted.

“…Her desires for a ring have been pretty over the top,” he explained. “Originally she wanted a ring that would probably cost $20K-$25K, which I find very excessive but was willing to try and save up for it.”

“However, in the last few months she has upgraded her demands, and now wants a ring that would cost me $30K-$35K.”

“I find this amount pretty offensive given that it’s the equivalent to 3+ years of savings for me, and I’m not in a ridiculously high paying job.”

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He’s beginning to feel resentful that his paycheck is paying for the apartment they live in together and being used to save up for an engagement ring that he considers to be absurdly priced.

Meanwhile, his girlfriend makes about the same that he does, and all of her money is being spent on her luxury items.

The way his girlfriend is spending money, coupled with her comfort in putting her cash towards luxury items is making him think that this is too much for him.

“I’m worried that her spending habits and expensive tastes are just the start of things to come,” he said.

“The thought of planning a potential wedding terrifies me, as I can imagine that she would want to spend a ludicrous amount of money on the event.”

“I’m not a pretentious (or particularly wealthy) person, and I’m wondering if her spending habits are enough of a dealbreaker for our relationship.”

He has brought up his girlfriend’s excessive spending, though she insists she can do whatever she pleases with her own money.

When he does point out to her that he’s the one spending for their apartment and also trying to get her dream ring for her, she ignores him.

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“…All her spending is purely on herself, making the relationship seem very one-sided financially,” he concluded.

Do you think there’s any hope for him staying in this relationship?

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