She Cut One Of Her Bridesmaids Out Of Her Wedding For Being Super Flaky
Many of us have “that” friend-the friend ingrained in our childhood and sticks with us the rest of our lives.
They’re the ones you asked to be the Maid of Honor at your wedding when you were 12, long before you even had your first boyfriend or girlfriend. They’re the ones you knew would always be there, even when you’re old and gray.
You’re not necessarily missing anything if you don’t have “that” friend. Maybe all of those fond memories you had in your heart are meant just to be that-memories. That’s the kind of story I found in Reddit, TLDR summary, “I uninvited my bridesmaid for being a fake flake my entire life.”
Amy thought of Paige as her older sister. Paige came from an abusive home, and Amy’s parents took her in and cared for her as one of their own.
This all happened before Amy was born, so Paige has been around Amy’s entire life. Through thick and thin, they were together even in tough times when Amy’s father died. The tragic death only brought them closer. Or so one would think.
Paige continued to come in and out of Amy’s life through the next six years. It seemed like they would make plans every three to six months, and Paige wouldn’t show up.
They hadn’t seen or spoken to each other for over a year when Amy had a life-threatening health scare. Nothing. There was no word of concern or support from Paige.
The brush with death was a frightening awakening for Amy. However, it propelled her life fast forward, and two weeks later, she was engaged.
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Against all doubt, Paige showed up at the engagement party. Amy took that as another opportunity to reconnect and invited her to be a bridesmaid at her upcoming wedding.
After a month of Paige being nowhere to be found, Amy tried to reach out and invite her to her bachelorette party. Paige just kept making excuses. Finally, she said she might not be able to go because it was just too much for her because the other bridesmaids were a lot younger than her.
Amy spoke her mind and told Paige that she was tired of the excuses. She told her how disappointed she was, and if Paige didn’t want to be a part of her celebration, she could stay home.
For a moment, it seemed to work-until Paige showed up a half-hour late as the rest of the wedding party waited for her to be seated. Then the following day, she didn’t show up for brunch, saying she was overstimulated and wouldn’t be able to come.
That was the last straw for Amy. She had enough of Paige’s unreliable, unsupportive friendship. She told Paige that there was no reason she could depend on her to show up and be part of her wedding.
The wedding had involved so much planning with a set schedule and a limited guest list. She didn’t think Paige could handle being in another state with people she didn’t know. She had enough.
That was the last time they spoke.
It’s interesting because Amy obviously loved Paige and wanted her to be a part of her life in her heart of hearts, but how many times do you accept disappointment? How many times do you wonder why your friend keeps ghosting you?
There are usually answers to these questions. But Amy may never know. So when do you stop taking the high road for your own mental well-being?
In the end, I think Paige may have a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD.) (I am not a physician, I am not qualified to make diagnoses or give medical advice).
But according to WebMD, GAD “is marked by excessive, exaggerated anxiety and worry about everyday life events for no obvious reason. People with symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder tend to always expect disaster and can’t stop worrying about health, money, family, work, or school.”
Food for thought. There are two sides to every story. They might both be right. That worrying and anxiety can be stifling.
It can even stop you from being a part of your best friend’s wedding. But, you also can’t expect your best friend not to be disappointed and hurt that you weren’t there for one of the most important days of her life, or can you?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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