Her Boyfriend Gets Along Wonderfully With His Ex, Who He Has A Child With, And It’s Making Her Insecure
A 27-year-old woman has been seeing her 33-year-old boyfriend for 7 months. Her boyfriend does come with a 6-year-old son that he had with his ex named Kelsey.
Her boyfriend dated Kelsey for 6 years and only split with Kelsey 3 years ago. After her boyfriend and Kelsey ended their relationship, her boyfriend did go on to see 2 different women, but he pretty much has only said things to her about his previous relationship with Kelsey.
Her boyfriend has revealed to her that Kelsey was the one who dumped him, which was difficult for him to deal with.
After her boyfriend was so honest and open about his ending with Kelsey, she thought about leaving him before realizing that she appreciates his candor.
Since coming to this realization, she’s done her best to overlook her envy when it comes to Kelsey while attempting to stop viewing Kelsey as her “competition.”
“Generally speaking I’m really happy in my relationship,” she explained. “My boyfriend makes me feel appreciated and included in his life.”
“Sometimes he’ll show me pictures Kelsey sends him of their son. It’s weird though because while I’m genuinely happy to see them, it also stings.”
“Here are two people who used to love each other so much they had a child, sharing these little moments every day. I love that they have a good co-parenting relationship.”
Although she does think it’s good that her boyfriend and Kelsey get along for the sake of their son, she isn’t sure how they can get past the feelings they clearly used to have for one another since they spend so much quality time together.
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She’s beginning to question if Kelsey and her boyfriend are “using their son” as the way for them to “stay in touch.”
There have been a few occasions where she’s doubted if her boyfriend and Kelsey weren’t something more.
For example, one month into her dating her boyfriend, Kelsey asked her boyfriend to grab a drink with her.
Her boyfriend agreed, and Kelsey asked if he would move with her to another town since she wanted to do that.
Her boyfriend declined, pointing out that Kelsey has a boyfriend and won’t end up needing him in her new town.
“She also asked to change their co-parenting schedule so that he would have more time with their son and he happily agreed,” she said.
“Sometimes I wonder if maybe she did this in an attempt to keep him away from me. I’ll also wonder if they have been going for a drink on other occasions and he isn’t telling me because he noticed it made me uncomfortable.”
There have been other instances that made her question her boyfriend’s intentions with Kelsey beyond just co-parenting, and she thinks there’s the possibility for them to get back together, leaving her in the dust.
“Every time his phone rings my heart sinks because I imagine it is her, which it oftentimes is,” she continued.
“In these moments, I feel like I am only a placeholder until these two are ready to get back together and be one happy family.”
“And I feel stupid for even trying to be in this relationship and wishing he would love me more than he loves the mother of his child.”
She isn’t sure how to talk to her boyfriend about her feelings, as she is worried he might start hiding how much he sees or speaks to Kelsey.
However, she doesn’t feel that she can continue to remain silent because every time she sees her boyfriend with Kelsey she feels upset to watch how they interact with one another.
Honestly, she’s uncomfortable to know that her boyfriend has such a wonderful relationship with Kelsey.
What do you think she should do in this situation?
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