Her Boyfriend Just Proposed To Her, But She’s Upset And Anxious Instead Of Happy About Their Engagement
A woman has been dating her boyfriend for 3 years now, and they both learned not that long ago that her boyfriend has ADD, but it’s extremely severe.
She knows that all of the issues that she has had with her boyfriend throughout their relationship can be attributed to his recent diagnosis, but it’s still sad for her to acknowledge that.
Once she and her boyfriend chose to move in with one another, their relationship turned into a complete rollercoaster.
She and her boyfriend are fighting all the time now that they’re under one roof. For his birthday, they decided to take a trip to New York City, and although it was meant to be a reprieve from their issues, it wasn’t.
Their problems only followed them to NYC, and they got into a fight over the dumbest thing, which really made her consider ending things.
“In my head, I was stewing and thinking to myself how I’d love to be single,” she explained. “An hour later he proposed to me on the ferry.”
“The ring didn’t fit, it fell off, and I was in so much shock and feeling so much anxiety I lost my phone/wallet on the ferry. I was quiet and just upset about my phone and wallet.”
“Not excited about the engagement. I almost resent him for asking, knowing all the problems we’ve been going through. I think he thinks because I’m so patient with his ADD and genuinely try to help and get through things together that I’m the one. But I just don’t know.”
She was so upset that her boyfriend proposed to her on their trip that she lashed out at him and pointed out that getting married was a terrible idea since they fight nonstop.
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She just couldn’t take it, and she started sobbing as she said she really did not want to accept the engagement.
She tried so hard to push her feelings down and save them until they got home, but she was so overwhelmed that it all simply came flooding forth.
“Seeing how hurt he was…it broke me…I knew how much he loves me but having ADD, being abandoned by his father from a young age, and basically struggling to do anything right his entire life…I think that all came crashing down in him when I rejected his proposal,” she said.
Her boyfriend closed himself in the bathroom to consider what she had said, and then he recommended that maybe they don’t get married but they can wear wedding rings and pretend to their loved ones.
After returning home from their trip, she’s been crying all the time, even though she knows she should be excited and thrilled to be engaged.
She isn’t sure how to move forward here or what they will even look like. Her boyfriend is her very best friend, despite their issues, and she doesn’t want to really lose him.
“It’s like we were way happier when we weren’t living together and there wasn’t so much pressure on him to provide and be more responsible,” she concluded.
What do you think she should do?
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