A 28-year-old woman has a 45-year-old mom that’s getting married soon to a guy that’s just a year older than she is.
So, her mom is marrying someone 16 years younger, and that in itself doesn’t bother her; it’s the fact that this guy mentally and physically abuses her mom.
The abuse has gone on for 8 years now, and her siblings don’t even speak to her mom anymore over it.
“We try our best to support her as much as we can and even have to pretend to be nice to him when at family gatherings just to keep my mum safe,” she explained.
“When we have ignored him in the past, she has told us that if we don’t speak to him then we are ‘putting her in more danger once they get home’, so of course, we just fake it to his face so that she is ok.”
Her mom has been engaged to this awful guy for 6 long years, and she was surprised when her mom announced that she was finally tying the knot.
One problem with her mom re-marrying is that she isn’t yet divorced from her father, and a second problem is that her mom seems to have only wanted to get married after she got engaged herself.
Her younger siblings genuinely believe that her mom was attempting to take away her attention by finally pulling the trigger on a wedding just weeks after she told everyone about her engagement.
Her mom definitely can be self-centered, so she already had assumed that her mom would do something to one-up her.
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“Anyway, she told us they were getting married by text, asked us to be bridesmaids by text, and didn’t even ask me directly to be her maid of honor,” she said.
“A few weeks later, she said I needed a different dress because I was her maid of honor, but I was confused by this because she hadn’t asked me to be and we aren’t anywhere near as close as we used to be.”
She ignored her mom’s text, instead thinking it was best to say something to her when she would next see her, but then, her mom sent her a text accusing her of not caring about her wedding or wanting to support her.
The reality is she doesn’t want to go to her mom’s wedding because she doesn’t see how she can be supportive of her mom marrying this man.
Once her mom gets married, this guy will only have more influence over her mom, and she doesn’t think her mom will be able to leave him.
She also knows that if she and her siblings don’t go to the wedding, her mom will be in big trouble with this guy, so her siblings are planning on being bridesmaids regardless of their feelings.
She did decide to ask her mom if she could switch her role to bridesmaid too, but she was met with resistance from her mom, who once more insisted she didn’t care.
“I just can’t do it, I can’t help her plan this elaborate wedding to a man who we believe will end her life one day,” she continued. “He’s attempted it before.”
She’s planning on telling her mom again that she can’t go through with being the maid of honor.
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