His Fiancée Thinks That He’s Selfish For Only Wanting To Wear A Pricey Wedding Ring
A 22-year-old man popped the question to his fiancée, and they’re getting married over the summer.
He and his fiancée are both in college right now, but he still manages to work a minimum of 2 jobs, and he’s done that since he was just 14.
When he’s on summer break or other college breaks, he works 60-80 hours every single week, and he loves being able to make a lot of money doing that.
Something that is very important to him is being able to afford to buy the special people in his life “nice things.”
He’s worked so hard over the years that he’s going to graduate from a private college with only $4,000 in loans.
In contrast, his fiancée got her first job during her third year of college, and her family has a lot of money so she doesn’t need to work that hard.
“She’s wonderful, and caring, and intentional, but completely aloof when it comes to money,” he explained.
“Her parents cover much of her school, and the entirety of last year when she couldn’t find money, but she still has large amounts of student loans.”
“To most people this wouldn’t be a huge issue, and its certainly not a deal breaker, but its stressful to me.”
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When he did decided to propose to his fiancée, had an engagement ring custom designed for her, and he spent $5,000 on it.
It wasn’t a little purchase for him to make, and he did spend a good amount on the ring.
Recently, he and his fiancée thought it would be fun to go ring shopping for his wedding ring, and they came across one that they really do like a lot.
His fiancée agreed to spend her own money on the ring, which she is going to buy a month prior to them tying the knot.
“Tonight she told me she will not have enough money to afford it, even if she empties her account, which I would never ask her to do,” he said.
“The cost of the ring is just above half what I spent for hers. I offered to pitch in, buy half, whatever, and her response was “well I guess its all going to be both our money anyway.” This isn’t completely incorrect, but I never would have had that attitude while I was in the process of purchasing hers.”
They did talk about it over text, though it didn’t go well at all and his fiancée stopped speaking to him so she could go to sleep instead.
Later on, they did discuss the topic of his ring more in depth, and his fiancée believed that he was being “unfair and dumb” for wanting to buy such an expensive wedding ring, despite him offering to pitch in on the price of it.
“I offered to cover some or all, told her she has a few months to come up with that money and it’s really not hard to make $1k a month, but she seems to think I’m being selfish for wanting the ring I do,” he continued.
“I never shut down the conversation into looking for an alternative and I’m willing to do that, but I do want this piece of jewelry, and to a certain extent I think it is “fair” to have that expectation.”
He’s left feeling upset that he worked so hard to buy his fiancée a beautiful engagement ring, but she has no interest in working as hard to buy him a wedding ring that is super important to him.
What do you think?
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