Her Boyfriend Never, Ever Lets Her Pay On Their Dates And She’s Worried He’s Going To Feel Taken Advantage Of
A 25-year-old woman is dating a guy a year younger than her, and she’s been seeing him for close to half of a year.
Interestingly enough, on every single date that her boyfriend has taken her out on, she has never paid.
It’s really not what you think; it’s not that she believes she deserves to never pay her own way. In fact, her boyfriend is the one who constantly insists on paying for her no matter what they choose to do.
The only time that she has ever been able to remotely pay for anything is once when her boyfriend asked her to go to a movie with him.
She quickly bought tickets the morning of their date and when they arrived at the movie theatre, he bought their snacks.
Other than that, her boyfriend never lets her pick up their tab.
Her boyfriend takes her out to eat pretty frequently, and even if their check gets knocked right off their table and she makes sure to pick it up and put it right beside her, her boyfriend still finds a way to pay.
“He’s made jokes a time or 2 when the check comes he’ll side it over to me and be like “this is for you” and I’ve always just been like okay – but again he ends up paying anyway,” she explained.
At first, she figured that her boyfriend probably doesn’t want to look mean or bad for allowing her to pay for a date, but then she tried to get sneaky and find a way around him forever footing the bill.
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She has a tiny little wallet that she can easily hide in her boot, and although she attempted hiding her credit card and then handing it to her boyfriend, insisting that he let her pay, he just refused.
Another hurdle she’s encountered is that servers will hand the check right to her boyfriend, not even giving her an opportunity to slide her credit card in there first.
“I’m not someone that’s gonna argue and be like LET ME PAY, but I also don’t want him to feel like I refuse to pay or I’m using him,” she said.
“It’s been 5 months and I don’t know how to start paying for things. I feel if next time we go out if I’m like “no, I got this” he’s going to think that I’m not interested in the relationship anymore or something’s wrong.”
“We started dating in winter so the options for “activity dates” are low, but even those he’s always taken charge of the decisions – like if you have to pay per time or game. He takes charge of talking to people so he’s in front so he ends up paying.”
She’s wondering what to do here and how she can pay for things so her boyfriend doesn’t feel taken advantage of.
Do you have a solution for her in this situation?
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