She Didn’t Tell Her Boyfriend That She Was Meeting Up With Her Ex To Return His Things And She Knows This Looks Bad
A 21-year-old woman has been with her 19-year-old boyfriend for 4 months now, and throughout their relationship, he has constantly reminded her not to do anything good for someone that might “look bad” and cause problems in their relationship.
She always conducts herself in a way that won’t cause her boyfriend to question her motives and she really does love her boyfriend.
Although she’s feeling good in her relationship, she has been thinking about her 22-year-old ex-boyfriend a lot since she never really got the time to come to terms with their breakup.
The reason they didn’t work out is that her ex did a couple of things she couldn’t get over, such as refusing to acknowledge that they were in a relationship and bad-mouthing her to his ex-girlfriends.
After splitting with her ex, she would infrequently speak to him, and then she met her current boyfriend.
“When I met my now-boyfriend, I still had leftover feelings for my ex but decided to give this guy a chance and it has been the best relationship I’ve ever been in,” she explained.
She even told her ex that she still had feelings for him before going out on her first date with her current boyfriend, though her ex squashed that and said she should go for her current boyfriend.
It broke her heart to be rejected by her ex and moved forward with going on her first date. Looking back, she’s happy she did that since she knows she’s falling for her boyfriend.
Not that long ago, she realized she’s still not completely over her ex, as she finds herself missing things they did with one another.
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3 days ago, she decided to meet up with her ex but didn’t tell her boyfriend about her plans. Mainly, she wanted to see her ex so she could finally return to him a few things she still was holding onto.
When she got to her ex’s house, his mom was super sweet to her and she was surprised to see that his family’s dogs knew who she was.
It was like she had never left her ex, and when she saw him, she realized she didn’t have any feelings left for him.
She sat down with her ex and had a chat about everything, and he asked her why she had come over to his house.
“I gave his stuff back and as I did, he said he couldn’t stop thinking of me,” she said. “That made my heart sink. I thought we could start over and be friends again, but that told me it was too soon for that.”
“We meant a lot to each other so I know where this was coming from, but I couldn’t let his family hear our conversation and it wouldn’t be appropriate to stay alone in a room with him.”
They both headed over to her college campus close by, where they sat on a bench and had the rest of their chat.
Her ex told her about what he was going to do after graduating from college, which made her feel like they really were on completely different paths in life and not compatible.
As she sat there hearing her ex talk about his future, she was happy to discover that she was secure in her relationship and no longer interested in her ex at all.
At the end of their conversation, they both started crying as she said that they shouldn’t talk to one another anymore unless their paths end up crossing again somewhere down the line coincidentally.
She walked off, ready to meet up with her parents, but then she paused.
“…I rushed back and gave him a last hug,” she continued. “It was very tight, I knew it held so many emotions for both of us and when we let go I felt a cold breeze in my back as if the universe was telling me everything was gonna be okay.”
She then called her boyfriend and made plans to meet up, planning to tell him that she saw her ex, but it dawned on her that it probably sounds really bad that she met up her ex without telling him in the first place.
She is positive her boyfriend’s feelings will be extremely hurt, even though she was trying to do a good thing by finally having her ex exit her life.
“Even though I did something good (cutting off my ex), it looks bad in the end,” she concluded. “I want to solve this as an adult. How can I assure my boyfriend there’s no reason to be upset?”
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