She Married Her Husband A Couple Of Months Ago, But Now She Thinks It Was An Enormous Mistake
A 30-year-old woman married her husband a couple of months ago, and she was head over heels for him.
She dated her husband for 4 years, and she always found him to be kind and thoughtful. When he asked her to marry him, she couldn’t wait to say yes, as she was so in love with the guy.
Now that they’ve tied the knot, her husband has turned into a completely different person, and she’s never known him to be like this.
“He doesn’t help with the housework at all, and when the dishes aren’t done he complains ‘you never do the washing’. I’m exhausted, I work full time and try to run my business in my free time too and I go to the gym 2-3 times a week because he has mentioned my weight gain,” she explained.
“With the ironing, cooking, cleaning a big house, and shopping, sometimes I just break down and cry. He doesn’t know how much I cry. I don’t do it in front of him because he gets agitated.”
It’s not just the housework that’s problematic; her husband is leaving her feeling drained in a financial sense too.
She’s the one who purchased the house that they live in, she’s the one who funded their whole wedding, and she’s the one who paid for the majority of their honeymoon.
Her husband does split their household expenses with her, but their major expenses have been solely on her.
Recently, she told her husband that she was still trying to pay down all of the credit card debt she racked up on their honeymoon, which led him to tell her not to pay for things they need around the house.
Vladimir – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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It makes her sad that she can’t spend a dime on herself, since there’s no money left over for her to even have her nails done.
What she’s struggling with the most though is that her husband frequently stops going to work, citing that he’s depressed.
He has no more sick leave, so he’s not getting paid anymore, and lately, he sits around the house and watches TV every day, and it’s infuriating to her that he’s not motivated at all.
“I make good money, but our fancy car, house, and lifestyle mean it’s gone quickly,” she said.
“I work incredibly hard to give this life to us, and he just doesn’t. He’s not driven like I am, in fact, he’s kind of lazy and I’m the opposite. I don’t know if I can be with a man like that.”
“That’s why I think I made a mistake. This is for life? He’s never going to work hard like me and he’s talking about kids.”
“I feel trapped in this mistake. I’m afraid of how miserable my life will be. I’m 30 and starting over would be so hard. I’m trying to communicate with him but he just gets angry and defensive.”
She still is in love with her husband, so it makes it that much harder to actually leave him.
Do you think she should rip the bandaid off and start over with her life, or stay with him?
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