His New Wife Wants Him To Push His Children To Call Her Mom, But He Has Refused
When this man was twenty years old, he and his late wife welcomed their first child into the world. Then, six years later, they had a second.
Tragically, though, his wife suffered a sudden and unexpected death just three months after their youngest was born.
“I found out after her passing that she had a heart condition she was never made aware of. I was told to get both my kids tested, and they both inherited the condition from their mom. That period was traumatic as hell,” he recalled.
Thankfully, though, he did have a bunch of photos and videos of his late wife to share with his children.
His son has always remembered her anyway, but his daughter was a bit too young.
Nonetheless, his daughter has heard so much about his late wife that she will always be his daughter’s mother.
But, two years ago, he did get into a serious relationship with another woman. They had known each other for four years and took things slow before finally getting married about five months ago.
She met the kids prior, who are now seven and thirteen-years-old. And they also discussed how her relationship would be with the kids prior to getting engaged.
“She told me she wanted to be seen as another mom to them. But, I spoke to my kids, and my son was clear that she would never be his second mom,” he said.
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“My daughter said she was not sure, but she didn’t feel that way about her. And I told them both of their feelings were one hundred percent understandable.”
After all, both of his children did like his new wife and thought she was very kind. They just did not want anyone to replace their biological mom.
So, he spoke to his fiancé at the time, and she said she understood. He also made it clear that she would need to be okay if they always viewed her as a stepmom. And, after taking some time to mull it over, she did eventually agree.
However, after they actually got married, he realized that something had changed with his new wife. Apparently, she became growing agitated that his daughter did not call her “mom.”
He thinks his son’s stance bothers her less because he is older and knew his mother. But, his wife thinks his daughter should be more open to the idea of calling her “mom” since she is virtually the only maternal figure she has ever known.
Still, though, he wanted to respect his children’s wishes and suggested that he and his wife go to couples therapy in order to work through everything together.
But, she continued to reassure him that she was fine with it and that she would get over it.
Just last week, his wife and her parents began bringing up the topic to him again. In fact, his in-laws suggested that he should actually encourage his children to call his wife “mom” because his daughter “deserves to have a mom in her life” and “will never know her birth mother.”
He completely disagreed that pushing his daughter was a good idea, though, and refused.
“Then, they told me I was putting my kids’ feelings before my wife’s, and I said yes. They said I was a bad husband and a bad father for denying this from both of them and stringing their daughter along,” he explained.
This understandably seriously pissed him off, and he has since told his wife that they need to go to therapy.
Regardless, though, he is still not sure what to do. He knows his children really like his new wife and enjoy having her around.
But, he does not want to force them to call her “mom.” Moreover, her relentlessly pushing for it and involving her parents has started to make him doubt their entire marriage.
Do you think he has a right to protect his children’s personal preferences? If your new partner did this, would you question the marriage, too?
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