The Night She Found Out That Her Boyfriend Bullied A Boy In High School To The Point Where He Nearly Took His Own Life, She Dumped Him
A 23-year-old girl has been in a relationship with her 23-year-old boyfriend Jack for a year and a half.
She met Jack at a bar not long after she made the move to a brand new city, and from the moment she met him, she was pretty smitten.
“He was one of the first people I met when I moved to a new city, and from the second we started talking, it was like I had met my other half,” she explained.
“We have the same morals, the same humor, the same passions. I saw a life with him.”
A weekend ago, one of her friends asked if she would like to come over and hang out before heading out for a night on the town.
She said yes, and she made plans with Jack to meet up with him and his friends later on in the evening, and the bar they were all going to meet up at was the bar she originally met Jack at.
Anyway, when she arrived at her friend’s place prior to heading out for the night, she met a guy named Dean.
“Dean is super cool and, although I’ve only met him once, seems to genuinely be one of the nicest, most down-to-earth guys in my whole city,” she said.
“Dean and I were casually talking about our lives, and he mentioned that he grew up in the same town my boyfriend is from.”
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“I laughed and said how small the world was because two small-town southern boys ended up in the same city and that Jack So-and-So is my boyfriend and will be meeting up with us later that evening.”
“His whole face when white. I’ve never seen such a visceral reaction before. It was like I told him the world was ending, which in hindsight, was probably how he felt. Dean awkwardly laughed and then excused himself from the conversation. Being about 6 tequila shots deep, I started to press him on what was up.”
She really had to drag the words out of Dean, but eventually, he did fill her in on the truth of what happened between him and Jack.
When Dean was in high school, Jack and some of his friends that he is still close to tormented Dean to no end.
As Dean sat there and described what Jack and his friends did to him, it made her sick to her stomach.
Dean mentioned that Jack almost made him end his own life, and the reason why Jack bullied him so relentlessly is that Dean is gay.
After Dean told her everything, he wanted to just go home, and she later apologized to Dean for pushing him so hard to tell her why he didn’t like Jack.
But that night, she and her friends stuck to their plans of going out for the night, and then they all met up with Jack and his friends.
“This first time I had ever seen Jack in that bar, I felt like I had seen an angel,” she said. “This time, it felt like looking in the face of malice.”
“All night, I could only think about the horrible things he has done. Even now, whenever I try to remember the amazing times we’ve had together, my thoughts always go back to his high school actions.”
“I broke up with Jack and told him I knew about who he was in high school. He started crying and said he hates himself for the way he was and that he’s actively trying to make up for his wrongs by living a good, kind life now.”
Jack informed her that he had attempted to reach out to Dean to say sorry for what he did, but Dean has him blocked across the board.
Jack then insisted that he knew his behavior back then was terrible, and he swore he was no longer that same person.
When her friends found out that she dumped Jack for what he did to Dean 5 years ago, they were angry with her. Her friends believe that Jack has changed and turned into a good person and that she needs to accept that.
“I definitely see this side of things (I by no means am a saint either), but I feel like there may be a point where even if someone has grown, that still doesn’t mean their soil isn’t spoiled,” she continued.
“A house built on a bad foundation isn’t going to be steady. Furthermore, my little brother is gay. Jack has been nothing but kind to him, but I can’t help myself from imagining Jack treating my little brother like the way he did Dean.”
“I love Jack, but I feel like I love the Jack he is now and despise the Jack he was. I’m not sure I can ever look at him and see something other than a bully. It feels like all the incredible kindness, thoughtfulness, and selflessness I’ve seen from him over the past year and a half has been an act. I know it’s not my place to “forgive” Jack for his actions, but I now have so much resentment towards him.”
She’s left wondering if she was right to dump Jack for who he was years ago, even if he swears he’s no longer that person. What do you think?
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