He Asked To Spend Every Other Holiday At Home Instead Of With His In-Laws, And His Wife Totally Freaked Out On Him
A few years ago, this man’s wife decided that they would no longer spend any more holidays with his mother.
Some of his wife’s reasoning included how his mother was always rude and never really catered to their children’s needs.
But, the most significant deciding factor for cutting his mom out of the holiday celebrations involved a secret wedding.
Apparently, while he and his wife were having dinner with his mother, his mom reached across the table to grab a plate of food.
And in the process, he and his wife noticed a brand new engagement ring– meaning that his mother had secretly gotten married.
So, his wife was mortified and believed that since they were not “good enough” to secure an invitation to the wedding, then they were also not good enough to spend the holidays with.
“And that hurt, but I agreed because I did not want to harm my marriage,” he recalled.
Anyway, no longer spending the holidays at his mother’s house meant that they would celebrate with his in-laws. And he did that for the past few years but now, it is starting to take a toll on him.
“These past couple of holiday seasons have been rough on me,” he revealed.
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Apparently, he just does not enjoy spending the holidays with his wife’s family at all. There are always about thirty people in attendance– which is a big crowd. So, the gatherings are often really loud and chaotic.
On top of that, he claims that the food is dry and bland, and there is never anyone at the get-together who he truly connects with.
“It also makes me miss spending the holidays with my mom,” he added.
So, when his wife brought up their holiday plans this past week, he decided to finally let her know how he had been feeling.
And even though his wife sympathized with him, she said there was no way in hell they would be “wasting” another Christmas with his mother.
And he understood that, too, so he decided to propose a compromise. He suggested that they begin staying home every other year and celebrating the holidays at their house with just themselves and their two children.
Shockingly, though, even just mentioning the idea made his wife completely furious.
In fact, she actually blew up on him and began accusing him of being selfish.
Then, his wife claimed he was trying to ruin her holidays just because his mom is a jerk and that he does not care about their children– who love spending time with their in-laws.
“The kids do, but they are two and four years old. I think they would love anything if we made it exciting for them,” he clarified.
Regardless, his wife still told him that he needed to “act like a grown man” and just toss his feelings aside for the sake of his family.
And honestly, hearing all of that has made him start to question even bringing up the idea in the first place.
He believed that he had a right to ask his wife and that his wife owed him at least an adult conversation about the option.
But now, ever since she freaked out on him, he has been left wondering whether or not asking to spend every other holiday at home made him a jerk.
Why do you think his wife is so against staying home for every other holiday? Does it sound like there is a double standard going on, where he is required to suck it up and spend time with his in-laws even though his wife doesn’t? If you were him, what would you do?
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