Her Parents Wanted To Sell Their Home And Move In With Her, But She Told Her Parents She Wants To Put Them In A Retirement Home, And They Flipped
This woman’s family is from South Asia, but she was born and raised here in the United States– along with her older brother. Unfortunately, though, she and her brother had very different relationships with their parents.
Apparently, her parents absolutely adored her brother. But, her parents just “tolerated her” and even expected her to stay home and take care of both them and her brother.
Understandably, though, that was never the life path she wanted to take. So, as soon as she graduated high school, she secured a partial scholarship to a state university and decided to get the heck out of her childhood home.
She ended up needing to work throughout all four years of her undergraduate education to support herself. But, she was fortunate enough to obtain a full scholarship for her graduate degree.
“So, I graduated university with only a small debt and two degrees,” she recalled– a massive accomplishment achieved on her own.
She later went on to find a career that is very fulfilling and a husband who she is totally in love with. She and her husband are also now expecting their first child and plan to have two kids in total.
On the other hand, her brother was not forced to deal with the same educational obstacles she did. In fact, her parents actually footed the bill for her brother’s entire college tuition, and he emerged from school with a great, high-paying job.
“But he has chosen to have five children, and they all go to private school and have all kinds of extracurricular activities,” she explained.
“And his wife is a stay-at-home mom even though they have a nanny. I know five young children would be difficult to manage. I am just saying that she has a degree as well, but they have chosen to be a one-income household.”
elnariz – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
So, as you can see, she and her brother lead two very different lifestyles. And recently, after her parents dropped a bomb on her, this became a major problem.
It all began when her parents decided, totally out of the blue, that they were going to sell their home and live with her family on the west coast.
Now, she does have a large property equipped with an in-law suite in a high-cost-of-living city. But, she just did not want her parents living with her since they had such a strained relationship over the years– and her husband agreed.
Anyway, she ended up telling her parents no, and they basically freaked out on her. Apparently, her parents had already put their home up for sale and claimed that a “dutiful daughter” would help care for her parents in their old age.
She was not going to let her parents guilt trip her, though, and instead came up with another solution. First, she told her parents to give her all of the money from their home sale. Then, she offered to find them a nice retirement home where they could live, and she would handle all of the bills until they passed away.
Well, if you could not have guessed, her parents hated that idea. And after hearing it, they even called her an ungrateful child and claimed her care was “expected.”
So, she was forced to turn to the last resort. She sent her parents a check large enough to cover one year’s worth of rent, utilities, food, and sundries.
“I also said I moved out one year after I turned eighteen and that they were responsible for me up to that point. I then told them not to contact me again without going through my lawyer,” she said.
Ever since she decided to stick it to her parents, though, she has had to dodge them left and right because they keep trying to contact her. On top of that, the rest of her family from both back home and in the U.S. caught wind of what she said to her parents. So now, they are calling her a total jerk, too.
The real kicker, though, is that her brother reached out to her following the debacle and actually claimed that she was making the family “look bad” by refusing to take her parents in. And at that point, she was over him.
So, she told her brother to either take their parents in himself or never bring up the topic with her again. Or else, she threatened to go no contact with him, too.
And at the time, she felt that her reaction was completely justified. First of all, her parents did not really give her any regard growing up. As for her brother, it’s not like he was stepping in to help the situation, either.
Still, after reflecting on everything that’s happened, she has begun to wonder if she was too harsh about wanting to put her parents in a retirement home and if that really makes her a jerk.
Is it understandable why she does not want her parents to live with her in their old age? Are you obligated to care for your parents because of DNA, or is the decision much more complicated than that? If you had been in her shoes, would you have done the same thing?
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