His Wife Initially Earned More Than Him And Wanted To Keep Their Incomes Separate, But Now That He Makes $300,000 A Year, His Wife Wants To Combine Them, And He Is Refusing
This thirty-one-year-old man recently accomplished a huge milestone– he completed both his Ph.D. and post-doctoral position.
Like many who pursue this high level of education, though, he was forced to accept an extremely low salary during his schooling. While he was in the process of getting his Ph.D., he earned about twenty-six thousand dollars annually.
Then, while he was working as a post-doctorate, his salary increased a bit. However, he was still only taking home about thirty-two thousand dollars a year.
At the same time, his wife– who is thirty– made a boatload more than him. They got married while he was still pursuing his Ph.D., and she was raking in about one hundred thousand dollars a year.
“So, quite a bit of a gap,” he noted.
And after they tied the knot, his wife had an idea about how they should split their finances. She thought that they should each put away a portion of their incomes for themselves, as well as some for the family.
Plus, she wanted to keep these percentages proportional to their yearly income in order to make the entire system “fair.”
Honestly, though, it appears that even though he agreed to this system at the time, he was never really happy with it.
In fact, he and his wife practically led two completely different lifestyles, and he was always quite envious.
AntonioDiaz – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual couple
“My wife always got a bit fancier stuff than me, and I was pretty jealous,” he revealed.
Still, he never actually voiced his frustrations about the inequity to his wife. And now, he realizes that perhaps he should have– even though, quite frankly, he does not understand how his wife never noticed in the first place.
Anyway, that was their situation in the past. Since working as a post-doctorate, though, his yearly income has shot up exponentially.
During those years, he claims to have networked with a few people who were in the process of launching a startup.
And after making those connections and getting involved in the project, he made a whopping three hundred thousand dollars last year. Plus, that figure does not even include his profits from his equity in the company.
So, as his wife did after earning her larger salary, he has begun to purchase more extravagant items for himself.
Most notably, he bought a Tesla Model S and is even completely paying it off with all of his own money– including the vehicle’s insurance.
Anyway, as you can imagine, he feels pretty on top of the world right now. But, when his wife suggested a new financial plan for their household, he was pretty pissed.
Apparently, his wife suggested that now, they just start combining their incomes completely. And because of that, she believes they should both get the same amount of “personal money” taken out of their joint account.
To be frank, though, he thinks her idea is ridiculous and believes now that the income scales have evened out, his wife wants to cash in.
“She wants to eat her cake and eat it too,” he vented.
So, when his wife brought up the new plan, he just told her no and claimed that she was not being fair. But his wife did not really understand that.
Instead, she apparently “went on a spiel” about how marriages are supposed to be equitable. But honestly, he admitted to not even hearing his wife’s argument out.
He simply thinks that his wife is expecting a double standard and believes that he is entitled to say no to her financial suggestion.
Still, though, he has been left wondering if saying “no” is, first of all, even allowed. And second, if refusing is actually what’s best for his marriage.
Do you believe his wife could have known about his views on their financial agreement in the past, or should he have voiced his concerns sooner? Now that they are both very financially stable, does it make sense just to combine their incomes or not? If you were in his shoes, how would you feel, and how would you handle this situation?
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