She Doesn’t Want Her Husband To Go To His Ex-Wife’s Funeral Because She Still Feels Threatened By The Fact That They Were Close Friends
A woman in her early 40s is currently married to her husband, who is around her age, but prior to their marriage, her husband was married once before.
She’s been with her husband for a decade now, but his ex-wife was in his life for more than two decades.
Her husband was friends with his ex when they were back in college, but then they chose to date one another and eventually got married.
Her husband and his ex then came to the conclusion that they were better off as friends after all, and they didn’t make the best match romantically.
So, they got divorced, but her husband still stayed really close friends with his ex, and she was still a meaningful part of his life.
Then, she met him and started dating him, and a couple of months into their relationship, he mentioned to her that this one friend of his was his ex-wife. She was floored.
“He explained the above to me, saying she was one of his closest friends and that it was purely platonic,” she said.
“I expressed some discomfort at him being so close to an ex, and he told me, “That’s fine. If you have a serious issue with it, let me know now and save us some time. I’ll choose her. I like you and all, but I’ve known her for over 12 years, and she’s one of the most important people in my life. You’ll have to be ok with that if you want us to be a thing.”
“When we were engaged, I asked again. He gave me this perplexed look & asked, “Why would us getting married affect my friendships?”
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“I sucked it up & went along. I resented every moment of knowing her, especially when we had to be social. She understood some part of him I couldn’t. Her husband was friends with mine as well, so it’s not like I could use him as an angle.”
So although she went along with it all, she absolutely hated his ex-wife and the fact that her husband was still friends with this woman.
Her husband never called his ex his ex; he called her his friend, and they did a lot of things together.
Her husband would grab lunch with his ex, and they would also go out to the movies with one another too.
None of this sat well with her, and she would frequently bring up to her husband that she was bothered by his friendship.
In response, he told her that she had a chance to get out, and she didn’t and had reassured him this friendship wasn’t a problem for her.
A few days ago, her husband got lunch with his ex, and she sadly passed away from an aneurysm as she was walking back to her car.
When her husband found out that his ex had passed away, he cried a lot, but she just felt relief that this woman was gone.
Then, her husband began working with his ex’s husband to plan her funeral, and she couldn’t believe her husband thought he was allowed to attend.
“My argument, summed up: She’s dead, so she’s not a factor anymore,” she explained. “He doesn’t get to use his “she’s my friend” excuse since she doesn’t exist anymore.”
“He had his cry for a couple of days; he gets to be done with mourning her already. There’s no need for him to go to her funeral since I wouldn’t want her at his.”
“He was the angriest I’ve ever seen him when I told him that, replying that he’ll be going no matter how I feel and that he’s “willing to burn this to the… ground” while holding up his wedding band. “Besides you, she was the closest friend in my life.”
Her husband, her husband’s ex’s husband, and all of her sisters are accusing her of being a heartless jerk.
They all have insisted up and down that her husband and his ex were not romantic; they were just friends.
“I never felt their relationship was appropriate, and I hid that for years because I wanted to be with my husband,” she continued.
“Now that she’s gone, I don’t feel I should have to hide it anymore and can speak freely.”
She’s left wondering if she is a jerk, though, for not wanting her husband to go to his ex’s funeral.
What do you think?
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