Her Friend Accused Her Of Financially Abusing Her Boyfriend Of 10 Months Because They Split Everything Fifty-Fifty Instead Of Based On An Income Percentage

This young woman and her boyfriend, Matt, have been dating for about ten months. Plus, about four or five months ago, Matt also moved in with her.
Now, she currently owns her own apartment and has a “somewhat” well-paying job. Her boyfriend, on the other hand, recently went back to school part-time. And while completing his education, Matt has been working a lower-paying job.
Anyway, as for how they divvy up living expenses, Matt currently pays for half of their food, utilities, and dates; meanwhile, she obviously covers the other half, as well as her entire mortgage.
She also loves to travel often, even though her boyfriend cannot really afford to travel right now. So, she typically just goes on trips with her friends.
Following Christmas, though, Matt was able to go on a “little winter holiday” with her and her friend group.
But, after they got back from that trip, she got approached by one of her friends, David, who had been traveling with her and Matt.
Apparently, David claimed that he wanted to talk to her about her boyfriend and then tried to call her out for financially abusing Matt.
More specifically, David revealed how he had “observed” Matt during the vacation and said that “what she was doing” to her boyfriend was not okay.
“David saw that Matt was struggling to pay for things, often checking if he had enough money,” she recalled.

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David also claimed that it was wrong of her to expect her boyfriend to pay for half of everything– particularly because she makes substantially more money than him.
Instead, David told her that it would be much fairer to divide expenses based on their income percentages.
For instance, she pays for seventy percent of everything; meanwhile, Matt pays for only thirty percent rather than a fifty-fifty split.
But then, David took it one step further and accused her of not “allowing” Matt to save money on his own. In fact, David even claimed that she was trapping Matt in their relationship– since he cannot afford to live on his own– and deemed that “financially abusive.”
Honestly, though, she admitted to just laughing right in David’s face after hearing that.
“This is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard,” she said.
Still, she did not really try to refute anything that David was saying, just because she claimed that none of what he said made any sense.
And apparently, that made David express a mix of emotions– which she believed could have been anger, offense, or disappointment– even though she could not make them out exactly.
Nonetheless, David ended up just telling her that he expected better of her. Moreover, he went to her with a genuine concern in an effort to be helpful and did not expect her to react so immaturely.
Anyway, it has now been a couple of days since David confronted her, and she honestly still cannot wrap her mind around the whole situation.
Still, even though she really has no idea how David came to that conclusion– especially because Matt lives with her rent-free and only pays for utilities– she has been left wondering if she should apologize to David for laughing in his face since he did genuinely look concerned.
Do you think she should be paying for most of Matt’s expenses after they have only been together for under a year? Does paying her mortgage alone– leaving Matt to pay no rent– offset the fifty-fifty split of everything else? Why do you think David was so concerned? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle this situation?
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