Her Partner And His Father Are Big “Mansplainers,” So At A Family Dinner, She Started Playing Into Their Game, And It Ended In A Big Argument
This twenty-eight-year-old woman claims that her partner, who is a thirty-year-old man, is very good at mansplaining.
Now, she admits to not really liking that term– which refers to when a man explains something, typically to a woman, in a condescending or patronizing way. Regardless of her view on the word, though, she admits that it is exactly what her partner does.
For instance, he happily explains the most basic topics in sly ways. First, her partner will sometimes start a discussion by asking if she knows about a topic.
Then, in spite of her response, he will either explain the entire subject anyway or try to challenge her knowledge by asking, “Oh, yeah? What is it then?”
So, as you can imagine, she finds this behavior utterly infuriating. She has even spoken to her partner about this numerous times, but he just claimed not to realize it whenever he does it. Her partner was also adamant that his “mansplaining” was never intended to offend her.
“He says he just feels like he needs to prove that he knows things,” she recalled.
Thankfully, though, she did reveal that her partner has been trying to watch himself more when they converse.
And as a result, he has reportedly gotten much better about it– and she really appreciates that.
The only remaining problem, however, is that her partner inherited the frustrating habit from his father. And she claims that his father not only does the exact same thing but that it is arguably even worse.
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
So, after she and her partner went to his parent’s house to see them and his sisters recently, this ultimately started a major fight.
It all began after the whole group sat down and started discussing a topic. More specifically, one that she is fairly comfortable talking about.
But, according to her, her partner’s father started the “inevitable” questioning of her knowledge on the subject. Still, she remained calm and just told him that, yes, she knew much about the subject at hand.
However, she claims that was not enough. So, yet again, she was lectured in a “friendly manner.” Her partner also had to join in, and it quickly turned into a competition of who could get more words in.
“They were both pitching me the whole subject, basically talking over each other to add as many details as possible,” she explained.
Eventually, though, she started to get really fed up and decided to play right into the game.
More specifically, throughout the conversation, she started to exclaim statements such as “Wow!” “That’s cool,” “No, really?” and. “Oh, I had no idea!” She claims that this basically made her turn into a “caricature of a nosey four-year-old,” but hey, it worked– because everyone in the room was left downright confused.
Soon afterward, her partner even tried to catch her in a lie– claiming, “I thought you said you knew this.”
Then, she was able to hit him and his father with the clap back of the century.
“Oh, I do. But you both decided to ignore it, so I thought I should do the same,” she responded. Yikes!
Everyone at her partner’s parents’ house went quiet after that. Then, her partner and his father got really upset– accusing her of being incredibly rude and embarrassing them in front of the rest of their family.
She also got told that she could have just “politely” informed them that she knew all of these details already. Obviously, though, she knew that would not have worked.
So, her partner’s mother has since taken their side and agreed that she acted really rudely. But, her partner’s sister is on her side and claimed that her partner and his father had been “asking for it for years.”
Anyway, with the family now divided about how she addressed the situation, she has now been left wondering if basically allowing her partner and his father to mansplain to her in order to prove a point was actually a rude thing to do.
Has your partner ever mansplained something to you before? What is the best way to deal with it? Do you think she had a right to give her partner and his father a taste of their own medicine? If not, how would you have handled this situation?
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