Her Teen Stepdaughter Asked Her To Take Her To A Doctor’s Appointment And Keep It A Secret, But Now That Her Husband Knows, He’s Furious With Her For Hiding All Of This From Him

standret - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
standret - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This 44-year-old woman got married to her 47-year-old husband around 12 years ago. Her husband has a daughter from his first marriage, and her name is Mary.

Mary was only 5 when she and her husband got married, and sadly, Mary’s mom passed away before Mary even turned 1.

Mary’s mom had ovarian cancer, and she found out mid-pregnancy with Mary. Mary’s mom was so scared to undergo chemo and risk losing Mary that she refused treatment until Mary was born.

Sadly, after Mary’s birth, there wasn’t much the doctors could do for Mary’s mom except try to buy her a little more time.

“Obviously, this was pretty traumatic for my husband, and Mary has been in therapy since before I knew her to help with that loss as well,” she explained.

“Mary is now almost 17, and we’re really close. I never officially adopted her (though I offered), but I never needed a piece of paper to tell me I loved her as if she did come from me.”

“We see musicals, take art classes, go shopping/out for coffee/to get our nails done, go hiking, etc. together because we genuinely enjoy hanging out. She’s the best and only kid I’ll ever have.”

About 2 weeks ago, she took Mary to get her nails done, and while they were at the salon, Mary very anxiously asked if she could assist in her setting up a doctor’s appointment.

She wasn’t sure why Mary was being so anxious about this, as she never acts that way, but she agreed instantly to do this for Mary.

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Mary went on to tell her that she had come across her mom’s medical file, and she was terrified that she might end up having ovarian cancer like her mom.

Mary wanted to go to the doctor to get screened as soon as she could. Mary then asked if she could please not tell her husband because she was concerned it would dredge up the past.

Mary concluded their conversation by saying she would tell her dad what her test results were after she got them back.

“I took this as Mary wanting to be more independent and autonomous, so I acquiesced, made the appointment, and left it at that,” she said.

“This past week was her appointment, and at her request, I accompanied her to the office but waited in the car. Afterward, she had a business card for a genetic counselor that the doctor recommended and was talking about possibly wanting to get a genetic screening to find out her cancer risk.”

“When we got home, she went to find my husband in his study, and they were in there for a while talking. When they came out, Mary gave him a big hug, and then my husband asked me if we could speak in private.”

Behind closed doors, her husband made it clear to her that he was furious.

He was so upset that she hid the doctor’s appointment from him.

She attempted to tell him her side of the story, that she just wanted to let Mary be the one to tell him, but he wasn’t listening.

Her husband thinks that because Mary is a child, regardless of being basically 17, he needs to know about any of her doctor’s appointments before they happen.

“I apologized, but he just said that now he doesn’t know “what other secrets you girls are hiding” from him and has been sleeping on the couch in his office the past couple of nights,” she continued.

She’s left wondering if it was wrong of her not to fill her husband in immediately. What do you think? Do you agree with her keeping this secret with Mary?

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