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Mary went on to tell her that she had come across her mom’s medical file, and she was terrified that she might end up having ovarian cancer like her mom.
Mary wanted to go to the doctor to get screened as soon as she could. Mary then asked if she could please not tell her husband because she was concerned it would dredge up the past.
Mary concluded their conversation by saying she would tell her dad what her test results were after she got them back.
“I took this as Mary wanting to be more independent and autonomous, so I acquiesced, made the appointment, and left it at that,” she said.
“This past week was her appointment, and at her request, I accompanied her to the office but waited in the car. Afterward, she had a business card for a genetic counselor that the doctor recommended and was talking about possibly wanting to get a genetic screening to find out her cancer risk.”
“When we got home, she went to find my husband in his study, and they were in there for a while talking. When they came out, Mary gave him a big hug, and then my husband asked me if we could speak in private.”
Behind closed doors, her husband made it clear to her that he was furious.
He was so upset that she hid the doctor’s appointment from him.
She attempted to tell him her side of the story, that she just wanted to let Mary be the one to tell him, but he wasn’t listening.
Her husband thinks that because Mary is a child, regardless of being basically 17, he needs to know about any of her doctor’s appointments before they happen.
“I apologized, but he just said that now he doesn’t know “what other secrets you girls are hiding” from him and has been sleeping on the couch in his office the past couple of nights,” she continued.
