She Is Refusing To Drop Her Ex-Husband’s Last Name Because It Is A Hassle To Change It On All Of Her Important Documents, But Her Ex Thinks It Is Just Plain Weird
This woman was married to her ex-husband, named Tony, for twenty-six long years. And during that time, they welcomed four children into the world together.
Unfortunately, though, about two years ago, she and Tony split up. But she was still left with one reminder of him everywhere– his last name.
She claims that due to the “stupidity of the time,” as well as social pressure, she opted to add her husband’s last name to her name.
So, literally all of her important documents– including her driver’s license, passport, credit cards, and voter registration card– have her ex’s last name at the end.
Now, she and Tony’s relationship did end amicably. He ended up coming out as gay, and they got a divorce shortly afterward.
And given the circumstances, she is not in a big rush to change all of her identification back to her own last name.
After all, she claims that it would suck and take a lot of effort. She would have to go to government agencies, pay for brand new cards, go to the bank, the whole nine yards.
So, she does not really want to go through the hassle.
“I still introduce myself by my maiden name; only in the documents is it this name,” she added for clarification.
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Just recently, though, Tony ended up getting engaged to his new partner, and they are set to get married in the next twelve months.
Around the same time, one of her and Tony’s sons decided to go on a family vacation. Plus, her son invited her to go along.
The only problem, though, was that her son needed her ID in order to make some reservations– meaning that he definitely saw her last name had not been changed.
So, when she, Tony, and Tony’s fiancé were at their grandson’s party a few days later, her son brought it up.
More specifically, while in a conversation circle, he jokingly mentioned how he could not believe that she still had not changed her last name.
Now, she thought it was kind of funny, too, and she honestly just laughed. Then, she explained how she was just too lazy to rush out and change everything that had Tony’s last name on it.
Tony, on the other hand, did not find it that funny. Instead, he started questioning her about if that was really true.
Tony also claimed that his being engaged to someone else was not the best time to do a name change and apparently insisted that it was really weird of her to hold onto the surname.
Quite frankly, though, she did not care about how “weird” it seemed and basically just told Tony it was not worth the time and money.
“Unless you can go in my place, spend hours and hours in lines, and pay hundreds for it, I won’t do it in the near future,” she told him.
Anyway, after that, she and Tony just dropped the topic, and the rest of the party went very smoothly.
Following the party, though, she did receive a call from her ex-husband. And during that conversation, she got accused of acting weird and being a jerk by refusing to change her last name. Tony also claimed that it made him very uncomfortable.
So, she was at a loss and decided to go to her son for a different perspective. Then, it ultimately came out that her son did understand her side of the argument.
However, her son could also empathize with Tony’s perspective and believed it was reasonable for him to feel uncomfortable with his ex using the same last name even after a divorce.
Still, her son’s opinion was pretty mixed. So, she has still been left wondering if refusing to drop her ex-husband’s last name is actually a jerky thing to do or not.
How much of a hassle is it to change your name on every government document? Does it make sense why after twenty-six years of marriage and four children, she is not in a huge rush? Why do you think this fact makes Tony uncomfortable? Is she in the wrong here for not changing her last name yet?
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