She’s Upset That Her Mom And Dad Spend Tons Of Money On Luxury Things While She’s Having A Hard Time Paying For Her Own Bills, And She Feels They’re Just Throwing Away Any Money That She Stands To Inherit
This 40-year-old woman currently resides in a country where the cost of living has only skyrocketed lately.
This has become such a crisis that she’s having a hard time paying for her own bills, yet her 70-year-old parents are spending money like crazy on luxury things.
Her mom and dad’s spending habits are really becoming a monumental problem in the relationship that she does have with them.
Now, her parents come from generations of money. Her mom and dad both went to very pricey private schools, and their own parents had tons of money.
After graduation, her grandpa just gave her dad a job as a partner at a top law firm. Then, her parents welcomed her into the world in the 80s, and then they had her brother 2 years later.
Her mom and dad really did treat her brother like the golden child, while she got dumped to hang out with her grandmother all of the time.
“But when I was 10, and they were 40, the age I am now, my mother inherited a…load of money, and they bought a huge 30-room mansion in the center of our town outright – no mortgage,” she explained.
“I went to local state schools. I was bullied and ended up going to literally every school in town because my mother cut my hair herself (very short); I wore free glasses and second-hand clothing. I rarely got Christmas and birthday presents, and never birthday parties.”
Her fellow classmates just couldn’t understand why she lived with her parents in an actual mansion, yet her mom forced her to work for her dad, earning less than minimum wage to pay for things.
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So, while she was struggling, her mom and dad threw lavish parties and invited hundreds of people. They ordered crates full of wine and barrels full of beer; that tells you just how lavish their parties were.
As the years wore on, her mom and dad just kept inheriting enormous amounts of money from their family members. Her mom also has tons of fur coats and a real tiara full of diamonds.
When it came time for her to go to college, she had to hold down a job in order to afford to go because her mom and dad gave her no help financially.
Her mom and dad did help her by giving her rent money, and then they did give her money to put down a deposit on a house to buy, and she was super thankful.
Then, when she got married, they gave her a bit of money for her wedding, which she also was thrilled to have.
It’s been decade since her wedding, and the gratitude for her mom and dad has left her heart completely.
She does know that despite the hardships she faced throughout her life, she still does come from a place of privilege, but she just has a hard time coming to terms with it all.
She currently has a daughter and spends all of her own money paying for her daughter’s school.
“I look at my childhood (mentally – my parents never took photos) and at my tiny home and think, wow, how great would it be to have no mortgage?” she wondered.
“How great would it be to afford a birthday party for my kid? How great would it be to take her abroad without saddling myself with huge, crippling debt?”
“And I look at my parents, proudly part of the SKI (Spending Kids’ Inheritance) Club, going on their cruises, downsizing their house to a mere 4-bed so they can enjoy the last dregs of generations of wealth. And listen to them telling me that all we have to do is eat out less (less than once every six months?), and maybe we wouldn’t have to worry about kitchen cupboard doors falling off.”
Then, she looks around at her cousins, who all attended private schools and prestigious colleges and work in excellent careers that pay a lot.
Her cousins have homes their parents purchased and second homes in London. They have horses, they go on vacations to go skiing, and they have everything they could ever dream of.
Oh, and for Christmas last year, her mom and dad got her slippers.
“How can I let this horrid sourness go?” she continued. “I know I need to. I can’t keep feeling like this. I know we can all agree that the Boomers (yeah, I know, not all Boomers) have (hurt) over Millennials, but I feel like I’m Tiny Tim being given financial advice by Scrooge.”
“It isn’t good for my mental health OR my relationship with my parents, never mind their relationship with my daughter [7F], who’s always asking why we can’t live in a nice big house like Granny and Grampa and all their friends.”
Do you think maybe she should consider putting some distance between herself and her parents to help her feel better about everything?
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