Katharina Buczek
“Which is nicer than saying that her family was and still is very poor and has no concept of fiscal responsibility,” he noted.
Thankfully, though, Kate seems to be an exception in her family– since she has worked extremely hard for everything in her life.
His girlfriend does still have large student loans, among other expenses hanging over her head, though. So, he actually hoped she would move in with him sooner. But Kate did not want to break her lease.
His girlfriend also reportedly hates her job and has other dreams for her future. But she needs her current job to keep paying the bills and has no way to financially make her dreams come true at the moment.
Now, he claims to realize that he could fix most of Kate’s financial problems without it even affecting him. And throughout his relationship, he has opted to pay for most of their dates and other outings because he wants to– even though Kate still insists on covering those bills sometimes.
But, while it appears as though Kate tries to handle her money well and be fiscally responsible for herself, he is still worried about cluing her in on his wealth– the main reason being that he knows people “get very weird” once money enters relationships.
In the past, he has already had to cut family out of his life because they were gunning for funds. And even though he knows Kate will eventually need to find out if they continue their relationship, he never wanted to mention it earlier because he did not want to screw up their dynamic or risk money changing their relationship.
Now that so much time has passed, though, he admitted to being terrified of telling Kate about his finances now. In fact, he is worried that she will actually resent him for letting her struggle with bills over the past year they have been together.
“I don’t want her to stay with me because she knows she can quit her day job and take a risk on what she wants to do. But I will be happy to let her do it if we are together for the right reasons,” he explained.
At the same time, he is also worried that if he tells Kate– and her family learns that she is now financially well off– then her family will try to leech off of her. He claimed to have even seen this happen to Kate before when her family tried to go after her for even just a few hundred dollars.
So, he is entirely open to the idea of actually moving away with Kate and starting fresh if she really wants to.
