Her Boyfriend Said That He Was Happy To Pay Her To Stay Home While She Finishes Her Degree, But She’s Not Sure That She’s Comfortable With That
Let’s say you’re a student who is also in a committed relationship and has had horrible job experiences.
How would you react if your partner offered to pay you to help do some chores around the house while you finish getting your degree instead of looking for another job? Would you feel smothered or supported?
One 28-year-old woman is going through this with her boyfriend, who believes she should focus solely on getting her degree instead of trying to balance it with working an awful part-time job. He’s even willing to financially support her until she finishes school.
For context, she’s been dating her 37-year-old boyfriend for two years. He’s been a great supporter and stabilizer for her through some really hard times.
She’s in the middle of trying to get her bachelor’s degree and has been working a mentally draining part-time job in the meantime.
She recently quit that job, stating that she was treated incredibly poorly during her time there and that it was destroying her mental health, making it nearly impossible to focus on school.
Her boyfriend, who she often stays with at his house, has seen her struggling to finish school and knows how much easier her life will be when she finally gets her degree, which will take at least six more months. So, he proposed a unique proposition to her to help her out.
“He said as long as I finish my degree and help him with his chores, he would pay for all my bills so that I don‘t need to get a job until my degree is finished,” she explained.
“He said he wants to give me the safety I never had to finally put this to an end and get this weight off my shoulders.”
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At first, she was appalled at the idea of him paying for her everyday needs, but he made the good point that if she took on another part-time job, it could be a very long time before she finally finished school.
She’s begun to warm up to the idea and is ready to say yes, but all her friends are totally against it. They think she should avoid becoming dependent on him and that their relationship could get toxic and unbalanced quickly in that scenario.
“I understand what they mean, but I just don‘t really see an alternative without going through major emotional turmoil again,” she said.
“Also, I think temporary imbalances are kind of normal in a relationship. I mean, when your partner is in a difficult situation and weaker than you, you help, right?”
What would you do if you were in her position? Would you take her boyfriend up on his offer?
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