She Doesn’t Think Her Son’s Engagement Is A Good Idea And Told Him He Was Delusional For Thinking She Would Approve
This woman’s 25-year-old son has been dating his girlfriend, Sara, for about seven months. And she was only introduced to Sara, who is 20, about two months ago.
Nonetheless, her son informed her a couple of weeks ago that he and Sara are now engaged. Quite frankly, though, she really just does not like her son’s fiancée.
According to her, Sara is messy. So messy, in fact, that it looks like the 20-year-old “lives in a dumpster.” She also believes Sara is wasteful, conceited, and downright rude.
“Sara will (yell at) you out when you eat the last of the chocolate, even if it’s your chocolate, because she wanted it,” she explained.
“She did it to my daughter. I saw it with my own eyes.”
On top of that, her son and Sara have even been banned from attending family gatherings after one specific incident– although she did not share exactly what happened.
So anyway, after her son introduced her to Sara and asked for her honest opinion of his girlfriend, she did not hold back. Still, in the end, she recognized that her son was an adult and she could not control his life.
Once she found out about the engagement, though, that was a completely different story. So, once her son asked if she approved of the marriage, she honestly just laughed and flat-out said no.
If you could not have guessed, this just made her son angry. He also asked why she didn’t approve, and she was completely upfront.
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First, she pointed out how her son and Sara are just 25 and 20-years-old. She believes that it is just too early to get married after only knowing each other for about seven months.
“I don’t think 25 or 20 is a young age to marry, as long as the people in the relationship have known each other for a minimum of two years,” she clarified.
Obviously, though, that’s not the case in her son’s relationship.
On top of that, she pointed out how neither her son nor Sara has a stable income. They also don’t even know how to clean or cook– which she claims is causing them to “hit a disaster zone.”
Plus, she doesn’t think not having a pre-nuptial agreement is a good idea. This is because ever since her own husband passed away, her son has reportedly changed a lot in terms of his behavior and personality. And since Sara owns her own apartment, she doesn’t trust that her son won’t take advantage of Sara.
Finally, at the end of the day, she just doesn’t like Sara and thinks that her son shouldn’t be marrying her.
Still, she told her son that since he was an adult, it was ultimately his choice. But, if her son was going to get married, he was going to have to support himself.
Apparently, he has been living at her house completely rent-free. So, she has been housing and paying for her son while he works a part-time job.
So, she told her son that he was going to have to move out. She already has three other children who she has to look out for who are minors.
Not to mention, Sara is not nice to any of her other kids, so she refuses to support her son and Sara financially unless they are in an emergency.
She doesn’t think this is unrealistic, either. According to her, if her son and Sara budgeted their monthly salaries, they would have more than enough money for essentials and savings. Sara already owns her apartment, too, so they won’t have to pay rent.
“Plus, I am fully paying for my son’s college, so no loans to worry about,” she added.
“Other than that, they have to figure it out themselves.”
As for the wedding, she told her son not to expect her to foot the bill. Apparently, he and Sara want a pretty extravagant ceremony that she just cannot afford. And with the cost of living rising, she wants to save as much money as she can for her youngest child– who is still in eighth grade.
Despite all of her valid concerns, though, her son just got really upset with her and left after she laid her beliefs out on the table.
Afterward, she also confided in a few coworkers about the situation. And to her surprise, some of them thought she was actually in the wrong.
So now, she has been left wondering whether telling her son he was delusional to think she would approve of his marriage was a jerky thing to do or not.
If her son is old enough to get married, is he old enough to support himself? Do you think she has valid reasons not to approve of their engagement? Did she have a right to be completely honest with her son? If you had been in her shoes, would you have done the same?
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