She Just Found Out That Her Husband Of 13 Years Has A Dating App On His Phone And He’s Been Chatting With Other Women
This 34-year-old woman has been married to her 34-year-old husband for 13 years now. Not that long ago, she found out that her husband has a dating app on his phone, and he has been chatting with other women on a consistent basis over the course of a couple of months.
When she approached her husband about the dating app, he said he was sorry and that he really did feel remorseful for downloading it in the first place.
Her husband then claimed he was “lonely” and only downloaded the app so that he could “feel desirable.”
Her husband swore that he never met any of the women he was speaking to in real life, but she isn’t positive if she buys this or not.
She knows that every time her husband has been alone, it wouldn’t be that hard for him to have met up with one of the women he was chatting with.
She asked her husband to hand over his phone, so she could see what he had put on the app, as well as the conversations he was having.
“…When I asked to see the app on his phone, he took a very long time to unlock it, and once he finally showed it to me, he quickly scrolled through the messages,” she explained.
“I told him it seemed like he deleted a few things, and that’s why he took so long to show me and, at that point, got upset.”
“The next day, he offered his phone for me to go through, but I declined to say if I have to check my phone, we shouldn’t be in a relationship. And I didn’t want to need to do that from now on.”
Maria – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She did also catch that he uploaded 4 different photos of himself to the app, listed his hobbies, and put down that he was interested in “looking for short-term fun.”
She ended up downloading a couple of different dating apps to her own phone in an effort to spot her husband on the other apps, and she also really wants to go through his phone again so she can keep an eye on what he’s doing.
She hates that it’s coming down to this, as she has never been the kind of girl who wants to routinely go through her man’s phone.
It seems to her that her husband simply emotionally cheated, and it didn’t go further than that, but that’s still a problem to her regardless.
“A part of me does not want to throw away a 13-year marriage over one mistake, but I also don’t know if I’m kidding myself in believing things will ever be the same again,” she said.
“I don’t want to just try to “forgive and forget” without therapy and time alone to think ’cause I know, I won’t. I will become paranoid and start to resent them, and this will just become a miserable marriage. So part of me thinks it might be better, in the long run, to cut our losses now before we get to the point where we hate each other. Because if a relationship doesn’t have trust, we don’t have a relationship. A boundary was crossed/trust was broken, and I don’t like the person I see myself becoming.”
“I don’t know what I want to do or how we can move past this or if I can genuinely get over it. I feel betrayed and, at the very least, like the last few months of our lives have been a lie.”
Do you think their marriage is fixable, or should she leave him now?
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