She Wants Her Sister To Walk Her Down The Aisle Since Her Sister Raised Her From The Age Of 10, But Her Fiancé And His Parents Are Objecting Because They Believe A Man Should Be The One To Give Her Away
Growing up, this 23-year-old woman never met her father, and her mother passed away when she was just 10-years-old.
So, from that moment on, her older half-sister– who was just 19 at the time of her mother’s death– took over raising her.
While her sister’s father was present and willing to support her sister, though, he was not willing to do the same for her.
This meant that after her sister decided to become her legal guardian, her father’s family went into low contact with her sister.
On top of that, her sister didn’t just lose familial support while raising her but also had to give up pursuing a college education, having a relationship with her father, enjoying most of her twenties, and more.
So, after she got engaged a few months ago, she knew she was going to make her sister her maid of honor. On top of that, though, she also decided to ask her sister to walk her down the aisle.
“All of my life, she has had to fulfill so many roles for me– big sister, mother, father, friend– that it only felt right that those multiple roles be honored on one of the biggest days of my life,” she explained.
Her sister wound up being ecstatic after she asked, too, and enthusiastically agreed.
Unfortunately, though, the excitement did not last long– because after she told her fiancé about the plan, he actually objected.
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Apparently, her future in-laws are super traditional, meaning that her fiancé always expected his wedding to be a classic and “very traditional white wedding.”
So, while her fiancé thought it was great that her sister was going to be her maid of honor, he did not think giving her sister two roles in the ceremony was a good idea. He also claimed that it would be inappropriate for her sister to walk her down the aisle because that is typically done by a man.
During that conversation, it then came to light that her in-laws had assumed her future father-in-law would be the one walking her down the aisle and “giving her away”– because she does not have any male relatives.
While she appreciated that her fiancé’s father was willing to fill that role for her, though, she told her fiancé that her sister made her the person she is today.
“So it’s only right that my sister is the one to give me away,” she added.
Well, her fiancé did not exactly agree with that, and they wound up getting into a large argument. In fact, even her in-laws ultimately got involved.
This led to her mother-in-law calling her just a few days ago and claiming to know how important her sister is to her.
At the same time, though, her mother-in-law told her that it was also her fiancé’s wedding and claimed she should not be putting her sister before her future husband on their wedding day.
Now, she admitted to completely understanding her mother-in-law’s points. At the same time, though, having her sister walk her down the aisle is super important to her.
It is also crucial to note that her sister has heard about all of the drama, and her sister was actually very understanding.
In fact, her sister claimed to be fine with just being the maid of honor and suggested that she just walk down the aisle alone– because her sister did not want to cause any stress on her big day.
Her sister being so understanding has almost made it more difficult for her, though, because now, she is the only one who is going against her fiancé’s and in-law’s opinions.
“But, because of my sister, I never walked alone on the worst days of my life. So I am definitely not going to walk alone on the happiest,” she vented.
Regardless, she has still been left wondering whether letting her sister walk her down the aisle in spite of her fiancé’s and in-law’s objections would make her a jerk or not.
Do you think she should have to compromise her sister’s role in the wedding based on tradition? Does she have a right to want her sister to walk her down the aisle? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle this situation?
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