Guys Open Up About What Pushes Them To Lose Interest On The First Date
Social media has become the go-to spot for communities of women to band together and share stories. And some of the most hilarious “story times” include tales of dates gone wrong, red flags, and dating app faux pas.
But, if you are currently a woman dipping your toe in the dating pool, have you ever wondered what might make men lose interest during first dates?
If so, you are in luck! One hopeful single recently took to Reddit to learn more about men. More specifically, what makes them tick, and what sends them running for the hills?
“Imagine you’re on a date with someone you’re interested in. The date is going well; the conversation is light and fun. What can make you want to leave and never talk to her again?” asked Space-Awareness-7234.
“I can’t seem to understand men, so I’m just looking for some insight into how your minds work?”
Men from around the globe came to the rescue with plenty of answers. And perhaps surprisingly, many of their dating turn-offs were pretty universal.
Negativity Is A “No No”
“Negativity is a turn-off. Complaining about work, life, or people can be a buzz kill. Or just being negative in general without some positivity to balance it out. Outlook on life is important.”
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“For me, anything that screams negative energy. Because negativity, for me, depletes my own energy and makes me feel so depressed.”
Texting During Dates
“When they check their phone throughout the date. Nothing will kill my interest faster. I’ve had women do this mid-conversation on dates…”
“If you want to take out your phone to look up something we’re talking about or to show me a photo of something or whatever, then that’s totally fine. But looking at your phone and even answering texts while we’re talking is just such bad manners.”
“The one that makes me livid is when they take out their phone, and they’re looking at something while you’re talking. Then, they look up and ask, ‘Sorry, what were you just saying?”
“Or, better yet, you stop talking to see if they’ll notice, and they don’t.”
Getting Too Deep Too Soon
“Mentioning emotional baggage, healing, life lessons, and past trauma. I was guilty of this when I was younger.”
“I had a guy flat-out tell me, ‘Why would you tell me these things?’ This was nearly 15 years ago, and it stopped me in my tracks.”
“If someone were to start talking to me about mental health or trauma before I knew them, I would not go out again.”
“Also, talking too much about religious and political beliefs on the first few dates gives me the ick.”
Talking About Exes
“If she talks about her exes non-stop. Especially if she’s humble-bragging about how much money they have and all the awesome things that he did for her and the great places he took her.”
“If he is that great, why isn’t she still with him?”
“I don’t mind knowing the basic reason why y’all broke up. But I really don’t need to hear the story.”
“It shows me you’re hung up on them, or it tells me that you’re still in the angry phase– and I’m not gonna let myself be clawed for it.”
Mistreating Restaurant Staff
“Being rude to staff is an instant no.”
“For me, if someone is rude to wait staff or any type of service staff, it’s an immediate red flag. Also, talking down to people or making fun of people in a malicious way. Those are dealbreakers for me.”
Did these “dating don’ts” surprise you or not? What else makes you lose interest on a first date?
You can read the original thread on Reddit here.
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