He’s Furious With His Mom Because She Won’t Stop Suggesting That He Get Back Into Dating After Losing His Wife
When someone loses a partner or spouse, it can take years to feel like dating again. For others, it’s different, and they feel ready to put themselves back out there fairly quickly. Of course, everyone grieves and moves on in different ways, and it’s best to be respectful of people’s situations.
One man is furious with his mom after she wouldn’t stop suggesting that he get back into dating after losing his wife and the mother of his young children.
He’s 28 and the father of two kids, ages five and seven. He tragically lost his wife, Willow, four years ago. It’s been extremely hard on his family, and being a single parent has been challenging.
Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time he has suffered a tremendous loss. When he was five years old, he was in a deadly accident with his father, who sadly passed away. He suffered from a brain injury and lost a lot of memories with his dad.
His mom remarried someone 18 months after his dad’s death.
“She always talked about how I needed a dad and how it was the best thing for us to have someone come in while I was still young enough to accept a new dad and not a stepdad,” he remembered.
However, despite his mother’s attempt to bring in a stepdad that felt like his only dad, he always kept his father figures separate in his mind. His stepdad was never like his real dad.
As he’s entered this new chapter of his life, he is on a completely different timeline than his mom.
“I have not considered dating at all since Willow,” he said.
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“I have focused on grieving my wife, healing, helping my children heal, making sure they have a good childhood and enjoying [the] life that we have now, as much as it is still painful at times.”
But recently, his mom has been getting on his case about reentering the dating world. She firmly believes that the children need a mother figure in their lives and that he should find a new woman to marry so she can enter the picture while they’re still young.
For a while, he could ignore her comments, but she sat him down recently and made him super angry. She told him to think about how quickly she remarried after his dad died, and her decision allowed him to have a father figure. He tried explaining to his mom that they were two different people and that he didn’t want to do what she did.
His mom kept piling onto him. She told him that remarrying was in the best interest of his kids, that he was petty for still referring to his stepdad and not as his ‘real dad,’ and finally said he was depriving his children of a mother.
“I snapped when she would not drop it, and I told her I don’t want to be like her,” he remembered. “I told her I do not want to replace Willow.”
He went on to explain that his kids have so many relatives and family members in their lives who help take care of them. Therefore, they are not suffering because they don’t have a stepmother.
Finally, he reminded his mom that she had never consulted him before remarrying and that she shouldn’t put words in his mouth. His mom left very angry and confused, telling him he was not a good father.
Now, he’s wondering if he was too harsh with his mom. Was he being too harsh, or did he need to set his mom straight?
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