His Girlfriend Is Best Friends With Her Ex, And He Doesn’t Know How To Cope With His Anxiety Over Their Friendship
This 32-year-old guy has been with his girlfriend, who is also 32, for about a year now. And according to him, their relationship has been progressing wonderfully.
While he realizes it’s pretty cliché, he does not think he has ever met anyone who was a perfect match for him at the right time and who wanted the same things in their life.
“I would propose to her in a heartbeat, while I never ever had the urge to marry someone. Just to paint the picture of how well we sail,” he said.
But, given their ages, they both obviously have dating histories with other partners. And typically, he does not have any issue with that since it’s not often that you run into a partner’s ex.
Sure, discussing past relationships with a partner can be uncomfortable or feel odd. However, for him, the feeling always fades.
With his current girlfriend, though, he is dealing with a completely different situation.
Apparently, his girlfriend is still best friends with her ex-boyfriend from numerous years ago– who she also used to live with. His girlfriend and her ex meet up every week, either alone or with some other friends.
So, when he first found out about their friendship, he admitted that the news stung a bit. But then, he got to meet his girlfriend’s ex and realized he was a great guy.
He doesn’t think his girlfriend’s ex has any bad intentions. Plus, he knows that they split up for a reason.
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But more recently, his girlfriend went with her ex to visit some of their old friends. And for some reason, the outing just did not resonate well with him, and he felt like she should have also been invited.
He wound up bringing his concerns up to his girlfriend, too and admitted how he felt pretty anxious again.
At that point, his girlfriend did apologize for not inviting him along and tried to reason that she only went with her ex since it was a practical travel solution.
But he and his girlfriend had discussed his feelings about her friendship with her ex before. So, while his girlfriend was understanding, she also became a bit emotional since she really did not know how to fix the situation.
On the one hand, his girlfriend feels bad that he is anxious about her friendship. But, on the other hand, his girlfriend also feels like she isn’t doing anything wrong. And he actually agrees with her.
Still, he is just unable to get past his anxiety.
“And even now, when days have passed, I still feel this in my chest like it is not solved,” he revealed.
Apparently, some of his anxiety does stem from past trauma. He was actually left on two different occasions by ex-girlfriends who got with guys that pretended to just be friends.
That’s why he realizes that there is a clear reason why he’s suffering from anxiety. And he wants to get to the bottom of it before he does anything stupid.
He has already started searching for a psychologist, but the waitlist for his first appointment is very long.
So, in the meantime, he’s been left wondering how to cope with the situation.
“How do I control my anxiety regarding my girlfriend’s past relationships?” he asked.
Can you understand why he’s having anxiety about his girlfriend’s friendship with her ex? How would you feel if your partner was still friends with their ex? Is he doing the right thing by trying to get to the root of his anxiety? How else could he learn to cope?
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