His Wife Has Asperger’s, And He’s Finding Her So Exhausting That He’s Not Sure Their Marriage Can Be Saved
This 38-year-old man has a 43-year-old wife, and he is convinced that she has Asperger’s. As for why he believes this, his wife has zero friends and no desire to be social.
Any time he goes anywhere with her, it’s basically painful. Instead of wanting to be around other people, his wife is content gardening and renovating the fixer-upper home that they recently bought, which he absolutely hates.
He got married to his wife 5 years ago, and prior to tying the knot with her, he really felt “free” and “happy,” yet that is no longer the case for him.
He feels that his purpose in life now is to clean up after his wife’s messes and deal with her various projects that never end up finished.
“Everything seems to be a project under progress,” he explained. “She quit her teaching job after we had a kid 4 years back and refuses to work full-time again.”
“Gets interested in plants or crafts and pursues temp jobs which lead nowhere and then shift directions. Constantly fixated and talking about topics of current interest.”
“…Still wants to live her parent’s lifestyle of a fixer-upper remodeling, thrift stores, clutter, and pet hoarding despite me making well into 6 figures. Refuses to change or consider the possibility of a house with a layout which is better.”
To deal with the unhappiness he is feeling with his wife and marriage, he spends hours on end playing games or going on his phone.
He has no clue what to do anymore, but at this point, he’s only still married to his wife because of their child.
Artem – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
He’s tired, he’s worn out, and he’s dejected. He’s also frustrated by the fact that his wife is content working a temporary job, so she has the time to do all of her artistic things, and what she makes at her job is way less than what he pays for their child to go to daycare.
He also gets stuck walking all of their pets and doing all of the dishes on top of working full-time. He desperately wants to hire someone to help them out around the house, but his wife does not want anyone in their home.
He pays for their entire mortgage, he pays for his wife’s hobbies, and he’s pretty much paying for everything.
He’s finding his wife so exhausting that he’s not really sure their marriage can be saved.
What do you think he should do?
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