She Found Out Her Boyfriend Went On Bumble After A Minor Misunderstanding, So She Broke Up With Him, And Now She’s Wondering If She Did The Right Thing
This 29-year-old woman has only been dating her boyfriend, who is 32, for a few months now.
“So, it’s safe to say we were still getting to know each other. And I think I dodged a bullet,” she prefaced.
Just a couple of nights ago, it was her cousin’s birthday. So, her cousin threw a pool party and said she was allowed to invite her boyfriend.
She figured that would be a great opportunity for him to meet all of her cousins, too, since she is very close to them. That’s why she decided to extend the invitation– letting her boyfriend know about the party one week in advance.
Then, on the day of the celebration, she made sure to remind her boyfriend about the party and its start time– which was 7:00 p.m.
However, her boyfriend wound up revealing how he planned to show up at 8:00 p.m. since he didn’t want to spend too much time at the party. Plus, he claimed he wanted to leave early, too.
While she was seemingly fine with that at the time, though, things only got worse– because, at the very last minute, her boyfriend reached out and claimed he wouldn’t be able to get to the party until 9:00 p.m.
Now, she tried to be understanding of the fact that her boyfriend had had a busy day. Nonetheless, she thought 9:00 p.m. was way too late to show up. So, she tried to give her boyfriend an out.
“That’s too late, at the point the event will almost be over. But no worries, I know you are busy. Let’s meet up tomorrow! I’ll take you out for dinner,” she told her boyfriend.
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He was reportedly okay with that, too. So, she figured everything was fine, arrived at the party as planned, and had a wonderful time. The following day, though, she did notice that her boyfriend started to act kind of distant.
Still, she did not really think much of it and assumed he was just busy.
Later on, though, she realized her cousin had sent an incriminating screenshot in their group chat.
Apparently, her cousin had been swiping on Bumble when her boyfriend’s profile popped up on the dating app! So, her cousin forwarded a screenshot to ask if it was really him, and she confirmed that it was.
But honestly, she still did not really think anything of the Bumble profile.
“Because it could just be an old profile that he forgot to disable when we started our relationship. I did disable all of my dating apps to prevent any misunderstandings when we made things official,” she explained.
So, she gave her boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and texted him to ask what he was doing on the dating app. While she really thought he was going to claim it was an old profile, though, her boyfriend wound up owning up to his Bumble profile and trying to explain himself.
“Last night, I was angry at you because you went to the party without me. All my friends were telling me that you deliberately disinvited me. I got drunk and angry, so I reactivated my Bumble profile. I didn’t talk to anyone, though,” her boyfriend told her.
Now, that explanation genuinely made her heart sink, and she wound up telling her boyfriend that she didn’t want to talk to him anymore. Then, she hung up the phone on him and decided to reflect on the whole situation for a few minutes.
Afterward, she came to the conclusion that she would not stand for such disrespect. Quite frankly, she did not care if her boyfriend didn’t talk to any other girls. At the end of the day, she feels like he completely betrayed her trust.
On top of that, she believes her boyfriend showed her that he would just talk to other girls and potentially cheat whenever they had a conflict rather than being upfront and communicating.
“If not, then why did he reactivate his profile? How immature is this?” she asked.
She also revealed how she had absolutely no idea her boyfriend’s feelings had ever been hurt in the first place. So, the fact that he failed to say anything before running to Bumble really irked her.
That’s why she ultimately decided to send her boyfriend a voice memo detailing how she refused to be treated like that. She also revealed how she did not trust her boyfriend anymore and just wanted to end their relationship.
“To me, he did not deserve a call,” she vented.
Plus, she even blocked him on everything afterward, too, meaning that she had no idea if her boyfriend ever responded to her voice memo.
Regardless, though, she is not really interested in knowing his response– because she thinks that his running to Bumble over a minor misunderstanding was a major red flag.
Still, ever since she chose to end their relationship, she has been wondering if she did the right thing.
Why do you think her boyfriend ran to Bumble instead of communicating his feelings? Do you agree that’s a major red flag? Would you have broken up with him, too? If not, how would you have handled this situation?
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