He Threatened To Take Away His Wife’s Spending Privileges Unless She Stops Being A “Pushover” And Spending Money On Her Younger Sister
This guy’s wife is 25-years-old, and she has a younger, 20-year-old sister who is “somewhat disabled.”
Apparently, his wife’s sister has a condition that makes working challenging but not impossible unless presented with stress.
When stressed out, the neurological condition causes his wife’s sister to lose muscle control, fall over and causes her to hit or throw things.
But he is adamant that he has no problem with his sister-in-law. He actually thinks she is sweet and nice to be around, and he knows that his wife absolutely loves her sister.
“My wife basically raised her and stepped in when her parents wouldn’t or couldn’t. This has led to a relationship closer to mother-daughter,” he explained.
So, when his sister-in-law was younger, his wife would always pay for things for her sister. And at the time, this made sense to him since his sister-in-law was a minor.
More recently, however, the habit has really started to tick him off. Right now, he is the sole financial provider for his family since his wife just gave birth and went on maternity leave.
And with their finances feeling the strain at the moment, he can’t help but notice how much money they spend on his sister-in-law.
Around the holidays, for instance, he and his wife spend a lot of money to buy his sister-in-law presents. But she never returned the favor with a cheap gift or something that she put a bit of thought into.
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They also always take his wife’s sister out to dinner or events, and they foot the bill every single time– which irks him.
Anyway, he feels like it’s more of an issue nowadays since his wife’s sister has become an adult. Yet, his sister-in-law still expects his wife to do everything– such as pay for doctor’s appointments.
Sometimes, his sister-in-law will also invite him and his wife out to lunch. However, they are still expected to pay.
“My sister-in-law doesn’t even schedule her own appointments. My wife takes her wherever she asks, even if she has the ability to do it herself, and we live 45 minutes away,” he added.
“And she always talks about how she is freelancing and is making money, but then somehow has no money whenever she needs or wants anything.”
Still, he did not have a problem with this at the beginning since his wife was spending her own money on her sister.
Now that his wife is not working anymore and is spending the money he brings home on his sister-in-law, though, he has become really frustrated.
His family is apparently living paycheck to paycheck right now, and they can barely afford their needs.
That’s why he wants to spend his money on his daughter instead of giving it to “this financially irresponsible leech.”
He recently tried to explain this to his wife, too, but they just wound up getting into an argument. And during their fight, he admitted to calling his sister-in-law some horrible names.
Regardless, he ended the discussion by telling his wife that unless she tells her sister to grow up, then he will take away his wife’s access to their joint bank account until she starts contributing financially again.
“My sister-in-law cannot be dependent on people forever. I think it’s an important lesson for her to learn,” he vented.
“If she doesn’t learn it, she can get back to work and continue supporting her until she’s 40 with her own money. Not mine.”
While he thinks the ultimatum is for the better, though, his wife feels like it is an “end of the world situation.”
So, he’s been left wondering whether threatening to take away his wife’s spending privileges unless she stops being a “pushover” made him a real jerk or not.
Can you understand why he feels like they don’t have the cash to spare for his sister-in-law right now? At the same time, was it right to threaten to take away his wife’s access to their money? How else could he have handled this situation?
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