About two months ago, this 35-year-old guy met a woman, who is also 35, on a dating app. And after they first went out, he felt like that was the best first date he had ever been on.
They immediately clicked, and then, over the following eight weeks, they hung out all the time. Early on, they also had some pretty deep conversations about major life topics.
And to his complete surprise, they aligned on everything– from comedy, music, and food preferences to their values.
“I mean literally everything. She checked every box I could think of, and she said the same about me,” he recalled.
The woman also started making tons of comments that insinuated she was ready to take the next step and get serious.
For instance, she asked if he would ever get married again and where their first trip together would be.
She also said she was going to “keep him,” told him “I love you,” and even said, “I feel like I’ve met my person and my other half.”
Plus, just two weeks after meeting each other, the woman even mentioned purchasing tickets to see the comedian Matt Rife for their “one-year anniversary.”
Anyway, all of the woman’s questions and expressions of love made him feel like they both felt the same way. Moreover, he was operating at an “appropriate” pace, and their relationship would be progressing.
But just last week, everything went completely sideways.
It all began when they spent an entire day on a boat with some friends, and the woman told him that she had found her person. And obviously, that made him feel great at the time.
Yet, the very next day, the woman claimed that she had a complete change of heart regarding her feelings for him.
“I was shocked and confused, to say the least,” he said.
So, he decided to give her some time and space. And after a little while, the woman turned around and claimed that “all of her good feelings were intact.”
Still, while things were better after the woman “did a 180,” they just were not the same.
Then, she went on a trip to Boston for a couple of days, during which he decided to give her some more space.
But while she was away, she wound up calling him and claiming that they needed to talk. And over the phone, the woman just broke up with him out of the blue.
Now, for some context, she was apparently married to someone once before. However, the woman reportedly only got married due to reasons that are “no longer relevant,” so she did not really love her ex-husband.
Afterward, following her divorce, she fell in love with a different man. But that man tragically took his own life, and the woman was heartbroken.
So, to him, it seems like she just has a ton of unresolved trauma and is “self-sabotaging” their relationship.
Regardless, he can’t help but feel confused and seriously hurt right now following the breakup.
“I’ve never had someone do a complete 180 on me before, especially someone I really liked and saw a future with. And I’ve never asked for a second chance with someone after they broke up with me, but I asked her to reconsider,” he vented.
The woman just claimed she would think about it, though, and has not really gotten back to him.
So now, he’s been left wondering if there is anything else he can do and whether he should just cut his losses or fight for the relationship.
How would you feel if your seemingly great relationship ended completely out of the blue? Is it shocking how quick the woman was to say “I love you” and claim that he was “her person?” Do you think he’s right that she might have unresolved trauma? Should he keep pursuing the relationship or let the woman go?
Have you ever been blindsided in a relationship? Email us at stories@chipchick.com to tell us about your experience.
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