What would you do if you went on a date with someone who burst into tears after you pulled away from their kiss, only to have them chase and scratch you?
Last weekend, this 32-year-old man met a 38-year-old woman while out at a bar. They got along great, and she came over to his place that night.
They talked, hung out, and he generously made her some food before she went home. That technically counted as their first date, and for their second one, he let her park her car inside his gated apartment complex since it’s free parking, and they walked over to some bars close by.
The date started out decently, but he lost interest gradually as the night wore on, and he had a lot of reasons for why that happened.
“She was flirting with other people while we were out, became much more physically affectionate than I was comfortable with for only a second date, and I also learned she was a single mom whose two kids live across the country. Nothing wrong with any of that, but I realized we probably weren’t a good fit,” he explained.
“At last call, she orders a shot, then afterward suddenly grabbed me and went in for a kiss. We’d kissed many times throughout the night, but my reaction this time was instinctive, and I awkwardly pulled back. I genuinely wasn’t trying to embarrass her.”
“It just hit me in that moment that my attraction had faded. She immediately started crying. I apologized and tried explaining that I hadn’t meant to react that way, but then she started insulting me…at that point, I decided the date was over.”
He tried to keep telling this girl that they should wrap it up, and he could take her back to her car. Remember, it was stuck inside his gated apartment complex.
This girl would not leave, and he still tried to convince her, as he wasn’t sure how she could get her car out if he left without her. Finally, he said to her that they were done and had to get her car, because the bar was closing, and that’s when things got ugly.
This girl pushed him, so he turned around and walked away. She then proceeded to flip over a barstool, so he did look back at her, and the whole bar was witnessing this go down.
“…Then she chased me out of the bar as I’m walking out, scratched my neck, and shoved me into another customer walking in. I apologized to the guy immediately,” he added.
“The manager came outside, checked that I was okay, told me to head home, and handled the rest. The next morning, her car was gone, so she obviously figured out how to get it without me. Thank God! Never again.”
In hindsight, he thinks he made some mistakes, such as letting her park in his complex, entertaining the conversation with her for too long when he should have walked away, and not being direct enough.
However, he doesn’t see how her putting her hands on him was acceptable. He’s left wondering what else he could have done to have made the situation, well, less bad.
I mean, it’s impossible to predict someone’s behavior, so I don’t think there was anything he could have done differently. This girl is a mess, and her behavior was uncalled for.
He didn’t do anything wrong either, but he could have extracted himself earlier, and as soon as things took a turn with her. It was not his responsibility to manage her or get her home safe, especially after she assaulted him.
This girl was just a closet psycho; he got unlucky, and he should stop overthinking this.
What do you think?
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