Her Roommate’s Mom Keeps Contacting Her To Talk As If She’s A Pen Pal, And She Wants To Ask Her Roommate To Put A Stop To It
This 28-year-old woman currently has a roommate named Jack, who is 23.
But Jack only recently moved to her area from another country. So, they have only known each other for about three months.
And just a few weeks ago, while she was in the kitchen and Jack was in the lounge, she heard as he started a video call with his mom.
Not long afterward, Jack’s mom started asking about the noise in the kitchen, and he explained how she– his roommate– was just washing some dishes.
“Then, Jack’s mom very loudly and very excitedly asked if she could meet me, and Jack sent sorry and pleading eyes over my way,” she recalled.
So, she reluctantly walked over to say a quick hello to Jack’s mom– who she claimed was actually very lovely.
The woman was also really glad to know that she was there from overseas, too, meaning she could provide Jack with advice.
Anyway, after that video chat, all was well. But one week later, she received a random WhatsApp message from an unknown number.
Apparently, the sender was asking if she knew where Jack was because he was late for a video call. And after reading that, she was quickly able to deduce that the messages came from Jack’s mom.
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She wound up walking over to his room, knocking on his door, and asking him why his mom had her phone number.
Afterward, Jack just apologized and explained how his mom had wanted an emergency contact while he was overseas.
“And he hasn’t made many friends nor found a job yet, so he didn’t know who else to give,” she added.
She told her roommate that that was fine. After all, her mom asked for the same thing when she first moved away.
Still, she just told Jack that he should have asked first, and then they went on with their day.
Well, it soon became clear that Jack’s “mama bear” saw her as more of a pen pal than just an emergency contact.
Every few days, she receives messages from Jack’s mom saying things like, “I see you’re having some fantastic weather, so jealous!” or, “You should visit our home country one day! You’d love it!”
And honestly, she is sick of it. She admitted that she does not currently have or want to have a relationship with either Jack or his mom. That’s why she’s considering just asking Jack to have his mom stop reaching out to her.
However, her partner– who currently lives with her– believes that she would be doing no harm by just entertaining the woman. Plus, her partner pointed out how Jack’s mom is “clearly lonely.”
“But I just feel like it’s not my job– and it is indeed emotional labor– to entertain someone,” she vented.
“And if Jack’s mom is lonely, Jack and the rest of that family/social circle should be working to fix that, not outsourcing to me.”
Ever since sharing her perspective with some other friends, however, they all claimed that she would be a total jerk to say anything. They also think that Jack’s mom will eventually fade away on her own.
Still, she isn’t too pleased with allowing the contact to continue. So, she’s been left wondering whether asking Jack to tell his mom to stop contacting her would make her a real jerk or not.
Would it be rude to have Jack talk to his mom about this or not? Can you understand why she doesn’t want a social relationship with the woman? How would you handle this situation?
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