This 26-year-old guy currently has a 25-year-old girlfriend who is very passionate about eating out. So, she regularly goes out for meals with her friends at least once a week and spends a decent amount of money on these outings.
In fact, the funds his girlfriend doles out for these dinners actually shocks him– since, last month, she spent more at restaurants than he did on all of his groceries.
Still, he realizes that since it’s her money, she can do whatever she wants.
More recently, however, his girlfriend’s tendency to eat out has started to interfere with their relationship.
While he enjoys dates that involve activities– such as going to the zoo, taking walks, or simply sightseeing– his girlfriend always wants their dates to involve eating out.
So, after he suggested that they visit the zoo together soon for a date, his girlfriend immediately asked if they would be eating there, too.
But there are a few reasons why he really does not want to eat out on every single date. First of all, he has been trying to be more aware of his finances, which is why he often cooks at home.
On top of that, he is also recovering from an eating disorder and trying to establish a healthier relationship with food. So, in the process, he has decided to eliminate any foods that are sugary, starchy, or carb-heavy.
This directly clashes with his girlfriend, though, who is a very picky eater.
“The only ‘fruit’ she consumes is strawberry jam or strawberry-flavored yogurt. I’ve seen her eat a tangerine once, but that’s about it,” he explained.
She also has a limited palette when it comes to vegetables, and her favorite foods are pasta, rice, and instant noodles– all of which he tries to avoid.
That’s why he and his girlfriend rarely eat meals together anymore, even when he does offer to cook.
Anyway, when it came to the zoo date, he was ultimately forced to tell his girlfriend that they were not going to eat out. But she was not happy with that and actually claimed there was no point in going unless they were planning to sit down.
In fact, if they went to the zoo without eating, his girlfriend said the outing would be more like a “business trip” rather than a date. And he had no clue how to respond to that.
“Isn’t it enough that we’re spending time together? Must we also eat a burger, order coke, and have churros to consider it a proper date?” he asked.
Afterward, his girlfriend also said she would not go to the zoo if she was going to have to pay for her own ticket. And that, coupled with the food debate, led to a pretty big argument.
Yet, according to his girlfriend, she knows that she is a picky eater and realizes that she is passionate about eating out; meanwhile, he is not.
Still, she pointed out how her boyfriend is the one who asks her out sometimes and suggests they do things she does not personally enjoy– such as going to the zoo.
As for why she didn’t want to pay for her ticket, she initially thought he just had free tickets, and that was why he asked. But, since that was not the case and she really was not interested in paying to go, she decided to decline– which led to their fight.
“This kind of situation happens all the time with him, and we always end up fighting over money. I’m tired of dealing with this issue,” she vented.
“Am I expecting too much when it comes to going out, including eating out? Can’t it happen occasionally? I enjoy sharing meals with people, having conversations, and savoring food. But after living together, do I have to beg him to have dinner outside or always pay for it myself?”
She even admitted that this recurring issue is why she no longer asks her boyfriend to go out anymore.
So, with him and his girlfriend still in a stalemate, his girlfriend’s been left wondering if she expects too much when it comes to dates, and he’s trying to figure out how to fix this situation.
Do dates always have to include food to be romantic? If not, is it unreasonable for his girlfriend to want to go out to eat with him from time to time? Does it sound like they are just incompatible, or could they resolve this issue?
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