She Asked Her Boyfriend To Stop Wearing The Cologne He Just Bought Because It’s The Same One Her Ex Used To Wear, And He Got Upset
Is there a distinct scent that brings you back to a certain moment or event from your past?
One young woman recently had to ask her boyfriend to stop wearing a cologne he had just bought because it was the same one her ex used to wear.
She and her boyfriend are both 23 and have been dating since they were 19. They were together through their college years and moved in together after graduation.
She’s currently in graduate school, and her boyfriend is a middle school teacher. Although money is tight, she loves to save up and invest in nice perfumes.
“Even though it is expensive, it is worth it for how confident it makes me feel every day,” she said.
“I recently encouraged my boyfriend to do the same because he can feel really guilty spending money on himself, but he deserves to feel confident too.”
One day she came home and saw that her boyfriend had followed her advice and ordered himself some new clothes and cologne.
She was so happy to see him treat himself, but her heart sank when she smelled the cologne he bought.
She was in a very terrible relationship with a guy for two years, starting when she was 15. It took years for her to get on the road to recovery, and her current boyfriend was always very supportive and did his best to help her heal.
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Although the trauma of her previous relationship doesn’t affect her daily anymore, things still trigger her here and there.
Unfortunately, her boyfriend’s new cologne was a major trigger, as it was the same one her ex used to wear.
“It was my ex’s signature scent,” she explained. “He was the type of guy to constantly wear too much cologne, and he always reeked of it.”
“I know for a fact it is the same exact one. I was so proud of my boyfriend for finally doing something nice for himself that I didn’t say anything and figured I could get used to it.”
She was fine for a few days while her boyfriend wore the cologne, but one night while they were being close, the smell of the cologne was too much for her, and she started being transported back to the horrors her ex put her through.
She began to cry, and her boyfriend started comforting her right away. But when she told him why she broke down, his reaction was disappointing.
She told him all about how his cologne reminded her too much of her dark past, and instead of offering to stop wearing it, he started arguing with her.
Her boyfriend asked how she would feel if he asked her to change something she uses every day because it reminded him of his ex.
She felt that wasn’t a fair comparison, as her ex-boyfriend differed from any other ex. She sees him more as her abuser than her ex-boyfriend and has no emotional attachment to him.
“My boyfriend and I have only been talking very minimally for the past few days, but I did notice he got rid of the cologne,” she added.
“I feel so terrible for making him upset and that things blew up like this.”
Should she feel bad for asking her boyfriend to stop wearing the cologne?
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