She Discovered Photos Of Her Sister On Her Boyfriend’s Phone And Isn’t Sure If This Is A Relationship Dealbreaker
This 34-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, who is 35, for six years. She also lives with him.
And recently, he asked her to help him out with a phone issue– since he was getting an “error message.” Apparently, her boyfriend is terrible with technology, and she is always having to help him out.
So, she agreed to help and got on the phone with customer support, and the representative asked her to forward a screenshot of the error message that was popping up on her boyfriend’s phone.
That’s why she had to open up his photo gallery. And when she did, she realized that her boyfriend had a bunch of screenshots of her sister’s photos from social media.
Now, for context, her 27-year-old sister is her best friend and obviously knows her boyfriend very well. In fact, her sister has stayed over at their house many times; meanwhile, she and her boyfriend have slept at her sister’s house.
In general, her boyfriend is very close to her entire family, too.
“He has been to all of our family events. He IS family,” she said.
However, the photos of her sister on her boyfriend’s phone obviously set off alarm bells. Now, she realizes that the pictures are accessible to anyone since her sister’s social media accounts are public.
But honestly, she thinks that makes the situation even weirder.
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“Why would you need to screenshot these photos if you can look at them anytime you want? I’m not dumb. I know why he has them, and I’m beyond grossed out,” she revealed.
Since her boyfriend is not great with technology, she even admitted to finding other things on his phone before, too.
She clarified that she never went snooping for it but happened to come across adult content in his searches when she tried to help him reset passwords, place orders, or process returns online.
“Anything I have found is literally because he has asked me to help, and, in helping, it was right there in front of me,” she explained.
Still, she never really cared about that. She just thought it should not be that easy for her to come across, which was why she told her boyfriend to just turn on private browsing.
When it comes to photos of her sister, though, that’s where she draws the line.
After discovering the upsetting pictures, she tried to simply finish helping out her boyfriend. But she wound up getting so upset that her hands actually started shaking.
So, she ultimately threw the phone into her boyfriend’s lap and told him that he would have to fix the tech problem by himself since she had seen all the pictures of her sister.
According to her, her boyfriend immediately knew that he was in trouble, too, because all he said was, “Well, I know you’re going to be mad at me tonight and probably tomorrow, too.”
After that, she just stormed off into her bedroom and shut the door behind her.
Yet, her boyfriend did not get the hint– because about 20 minutes later, he went in and asked if she just wanted to talk.
At that point, she told her boyfriend that there was absolutely no reason why he should have those screenshots on his phone. Plus, she pointed out how it was going to be weird having him around her sister, and she admitted to simply feeling grossed out.
Despite that, all her boyfriend did was accuse her of going through his phone. Then, once she clarified that that was not the case whatsoever, he just tried to claim that “guys are just different” without providing any further explanation. After that, he only kept claiming that he “didn’t know what to say.”
By the end of their discussion, her boyfriend finally just said that he was going to give her some space.
“And at one point, he asked if I was going to leave him, but I don’t think he let me answer or he started saying something else,” she added. “Either way, it didn’t get answered.”
So, since then, she hasn’t been able to figure out whether or not this is a relationship deal breaker or if they just have to have a tough conversation about this situation.
She is also particularly upset because, usually, this is the kind of situation she would confide in her sister about. But, obviously, she cannot do that.
That’s why she’s now been left wondering how to handle this and how to not feel weird when her boyfriend interacts with her sister moving forward.
How would you have felt if you found photos of your sibling on your partner’s phone? Is this a major dealbreaker or not? How should she deal with this situation?
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