Her Boyfriend Broke Up With Her Over Text While Studying Abroad In Paris And Staying With Another Girl, But Now He’s Begging For Her Back
This 23-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who is also 23, have been together for about three years.
But, one year ago, she moved across the country with her boyfriend while he attended graduate school. And more recently, he just left for Europe to study abroad.
However, he only told her a few weeks ago that he planned to stay with one of their mutual friends– who is a female.
And while she was fine with that arrangement, she knew that her boyfriend would never be okay with her doing the same thing if the roles were reversed.
Regardless, she gave her stamp of approval and sent her boyfriend on his way to Europe. However, once he arrived in Paris, she did not hear from him for more than six hours.
“This was very unusual for him, and I had asked him to send pictures and updates of what he was doing,” she recalled.
“To me, this is the bare minimum when your boyfriend is staying with another girl in Paris.”
So, after those six hours went by without any contact, she decided to reach out– sending a text and asking what her boyfriend had been up to.
At that point, her boyfriend was apparently very short, extremely defensive, and claimed he just did not want to talk to her at the time.
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She simply responded that that was okay and claimed she would give him space. However, another four hours passed by, and she knew that it was already 6:00 a.m. in Paris.
Then, her boyfriend eventually texted her and claimed to be walking home from a club– meaning he had been out all night.
He also accused her of being annoying, immature, insecure, claimed he could not deal with her anymore, and even said she was ruining his study abroad experience.
“He truly thought that me checking in on him and wanting to talk to him while he’s on the other side of the world was controlling,” she said.
On top of that, her boyfriend even asked her to take a “break” from their long-term relationship. But she just was not down with that.
She told her boyfriend that if he needed space, that was fine. However, she pointed out how they had been together for three years and were supposed to work through issues together.
Not to mention, they were set to move in together once her boyfriend returned home in just six weeks!
Still, her boyfriend tried to claim that the “break” would be temporary– not a full breakup. Regardless, she just did not agree that “pausing” their relationship was the right idea.
“Fine, if you don’t like me calling it a break, then I’ll say I’m breaking up with you if that verbiage is better,” her boyfriend responded. Yikes.
After calling it quits, she did not hear from her boyfriend for another 48 hours. At the same time, he continued to party in Paris with their female friend.
Just two days ago, though, her boyfriend did reach out and asked if they could talk. She just asked him what he wanted since they obviously broke up, and her boyfriend claimed to love and care about her.
“But I was so upset it took him this long to reach out. I moved here for him, away from all of my family and friends,” she revealed.
“I’ve decided I will be moving back home to be near the ones who truly love me. With everything I have sacrificed for him, to be treated this way in return is honestly a slap in the face.”
After talking to her boyfriend, she also decided to finally stand up for herself. She pointed out how if he could break up with her so easily over text, then he clearly did not love her as much as she thought he did.
Her boyfriend did try to backtrack, love-bombing her and blowing up her phone with apologies. He also claimed that she was his “future wife” and begged for forgiveness and a second chance.
Quite frankly, though, the way he handled this entire situation made her doubtful about ever trusting him again.
Not to mention, her boyfriend is accusing her of being the one who “walked out” and left him. So, he has even begun trying to guilt trip her– saying that if she leaves, then his grades will suffer, and he will be homeless.
Then, the following morning, she received a flower delivery from her boyfriend at work. The attached note begged her not to let their relationship end.
Still, she is not sure if the gesture was genuinely sincere or if her boyfriend was just trying to manipulate her into taking him back.
So, on the one hand, she does think he is being manipulative. But, on the other hand, she also feels guilty and as though she did walk out on him.
“I love him so much, but it’s time to put me first and not accept this behavior. He thought he could have his fun studying abroad and then come back and move in like nothing happened,” she vented.
“You just don’t do that three years into a relationship, especially when I have been nothing but supportive, loving, caring, and more.”
That’s why she feels like this situation was her last straw. Her boyfriend crossed a line, and he knows he messed up, too.
Nonetheless, as she deals with the fallout, she’s been left wondering how to navigate it.
Doesn’t it seem like her boyfriend just wanted a temporary break so he could mess around in Paris? Is that fair to her? Did she do the right thing by standing up for herself? How would you handle this situation?
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