Her Friend Always Views Every Situation As Seriously Traumatic, And She Isn’t Sure How To Support Her Friend Anymore Without Getting Burnt Out
This 28-year-old woman has known her friend, who is 29, for about five years. But recently, she has become sick and tired of trying to cope with her friend’s constantly negative attitude towards life.
Apparently, anything that happens– even if a situation directly impacts someone else– is viewed as yet another traumatic experience for her friend.
For instance, her friend’s neighbor once asked if her friend could turn off their dryer at 11:00 p.m. While that might have seemed like a reasonable request to most, her friend simply could not get over it.
“My friend required at least 30 minutes on the phone with me initially and has brought it up many times since. This happens with literally any event in her life,” she explained.
“She complains about everything, almost constantly, repeatedly, the entire time you talk with her.”
And when she tries to talk about her own worries or problems, her friend simply does not listen– despite the fact that she has some real issues in her life right now.
She is currently battling some serious health problems right now and has been in the hospital for the past seven months. In fact, she was only just discharged to go home last Thursday evening.
Plus, even though she is now home, she still has to undergo surgery, get MRIs, and go for other tests.
Finally, she might have even developed a rare illness while dealing with a recently-broken wheelchair.
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Still, her friend doesn’t understand that these troubles specifically affect her and not her friend.
“Instead, my friend sees my health problems as ‘woe is me, my friend is ill, how typical that my friend gets ill, my life is terrible,'” she revealed.
Just a couple of months ago, for example, she was on the verge of dying in her hospital bed when her friend gave her a call. A nurse wound up answering the phone and placing it next to her head.
But, rather than checking on her, her friend actually just reminded her that it was their birthday and hinted that she needed to congratulate them!
Now, she realizes that she might be thinking about her friend a bit harshly. Nonetheless, she is just sick and tired of her friend’s attitude.
“I really don’t want to be that person who thinks that their problems are so much more valid than anyone else’s,” she said.
“I know she’s struggling, and I’m trying to help. But I just don’t know how to deal with it. It’s infuriating.”
According to her, she isn’t the only person who has a problem with her friend’s attitude, either. In fact, the mental health emergency line in her county has actually told her friend on multiple occasions to stop calling!
Apparently, her friend kept calling and describing situations that the organization claimed did not constitute any kind of crisis.
But then, just like with any situation, her friend simply goes running back to her to complain.
“My friend just does not have the capability to reflect and think, ‘Hold on, maybe this is just a minor inconvenience that doesn’t require a huge meltdown,'” she vented.
So now, after reflecting on their friendship, she’s trying to figure out how to support her friend without personally feeling seriously burnt out.
Have you ever been friends with someone who has a constantly negative attitude? How did you deal with it? With everything she has going on, is it fair that she’s always forced to support her friend?
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