His Girlfriend Has Lofty Expectations About The Kind Of House He Can Afford, And He Isn’t Sure How To Give Her A Dose Of Reality
This 27-year-old guy has been dating his girlfriend, who is 26, for three years. And to say their relationship is wonderful would be a major understatement.
In fact, he actually just purchased an engagement ring and is ready to spend the rest of his life with his girlfriend.
“She’s my whole life, and outside of this kind of stuff, she’s the best person I know,” he said.
However, ever since it came time to buy a house together, his girlfriend’s “lofty expectations” about what he can afford have really started to get on his nerves.
For context, he currently works in sales and makes about $115,000 each year. He has also built substantial savings from bonuses and will soon be receiving an inheritance.
His girlfriend, on the other hand, works as a teacher and makes about $58,000. And while she does not have any debt, she also has barely any money saved up.
When they first started dating, he made much less money, too, which is why they did not live very lavishly. But, over time, he started to earn more at work, and his girlfriend eventually found out about his growing income. So, her expectations started to increase.
Right now, they are still currently living together in a “cheap basement suite” since the real estate market in their area is reportedly exploding.
However, he pointed out how they have a bunch of other nice things coming up– such as their vacation to Europe.
Wayhome Studio – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“But my girlfriend doesn’t necessarily understand what all of this costs,” he explained.
And when it came to buying a house together, their plan was just for him to take on the mortgage.
Then, he would charge his girlfriend “rent” until they were married since she had nothing to contribute to the downpayment.
Anyway, he wound up finding a house priced at approximately $460,000 in a great area. While the house was a bit older, he claimed it was not like it was from the 1970s, either. It was just a 2000s-style home.
After he sent the listing to his girlfriend, though, she claimed she would only be open to the house if they did a renovation.
“Entitled attitude, in my opinion,” he claimed.
“This is just one example, but I truly find her expectations to be out of whack. Especially since she has zero to contribute to a down payment right now.”
Now, he realizes that he does have to consider his girlfriend’s needs. He also wants her to like the home that they decide to live in.
Nonetheless, he believes that his girlfriend expects his income to just continue growing. So, he thinks she has become “starry-eyed” about the kind of lifestyle they might have– even though that makes him uncomfortable.
He actually just shuts down when his girlfriend reveals her high expectations, and it makes him feel like it is impossible to please her.
“I don’t even want to look at houses because she won’t like anything,” he vented.
That’s why he’s been left wondering how to deal with the conflicting financial expectations in his relationship.
Does it sound like his girlfriend just doesn’t understand how much it really costs to own a home? Might they both benefit from sitting down with a spreadsheet and crunching the numbers? How else could he approach this situation?
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