She’s Angry With Her Husband For Dismissing All The Work She’s Been Doing For The Business He Invested Their Money Into
When your partner is a business owner, it’s hard to figure out just how much or how little you want to help with the business, as markets always fluctuate, and we have to carve out time for our own jobs.
One woman is angry with her husband, who has been dismissing all the work she’s been doing for the business he invested their money into.
She’s 43 and married to her 44-year-old husband. A few years ago, he started a cottage food business with his friend. Cottage food products are homemade and home-based products made outside a commercial kitchen.
She’s always been very supportive of her husband’s business and, in the beginning, gave him and his partner a lot of advice since she minored in business in school.
“I started to feel too invested in the company and said I couldn’t be involved with the marketing and social media, as I have a full-time job,” she explained.
“I also know that he has made it clear it is not my company, and I am not part of it.”
However, when her husband and partner were recently asked to open a stand at a local farmer’s market, she became extremely involved and offered to run the stand on the days they couldn’t.
The other day, her husband asked her and one of the employees to hire to learn the ropes at the farmer’s market. She worked very hard and put in a lot of effort to learn how things worked while the employee sat around most of the time. But then, when it was time to pack up and go, her husband thanked the employee profusely and hardly said anything to her.
When they got home, she told him it wasn’t cool that he hardly acknowledged her work.
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“He said it didn’t even cross his mind to thank me as we still needed to unload at home,” she recalled.
“I asked him to talk to his partner and establish clear expectations for my role with the company. He said I don’t have a role with the company. I am not an employee, nor am I really a volunteer because I am his wife.”
This really hurt her, as not only has she done a lot of work for his business, but he also invested both of their money into it, while his partner hasn’t.
Eventually, he said he would talk to his partner about giving her an official role in the business that worked with her schedule. But a few weeks and farmer’s market sessions later, he never did.
She confronted him again, telling him she was confused as to how he could keep avoiding this talk, considering his business affects both of their lives. She also pointed out that conflict in business often divides couples, which he took as a threat.
“I said from now on, I will not talk with him [about] the company outside of the market, as the emotional and mental labor [is] not for something that is mine,” she said.
“He took that to mean I will no longer work the market. He got very angry and is saying he is just going to quit the business because this is ridiculous, and he doesn’t want to deal with it.”
Is she wrong to expect a clear-cut role in her husband’s business, or should she leave him alone to deal with it?
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