After Getting Divorced, His Ex-Wife Burnt His House Down, And He Moved Far Away From His Kids, But Now That He’s Dying, He’s Questioning Whether He Did The Right Thing

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When this man was younger, he got married to the “wrong” woman.

“My ex is internally a very angry person and wanted to be very controlling, usually in varying dramatic ways, and eventually, years of this caused our divorce,” he said.

But, while they were still together, he and his ex had three sons. His eldest was just 9-years-old at the time they split up, and his ex took all of the kids to her parent’s house.

He had actually built the home himself about 10 years before that, and it was just a 20-minute drive from his own property.

Then, not long afterward, his ex-wife actually burned his house down while he was at work!

Thankfully, no one was injured. He also claimed to have no solid proof that it was his ex-wife’s doing, so nothing came of the tragedy.

“The fire was suspicious, but it was in the days before doorbell cameras,” he recalled.

“I think she just lit a massive fire in the fireplace.”

Anyway, after his house burned down, he just left. Back then, he had a job that was extremely specialized and in demand in basically every city. So, he traveled to Toronto, Canada, to work and save up money for about one year.

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Afterward, he moved to a small town about 1,500 miles away from his old home.

While living in this tiny town, he wound up keeping his same job but meeting a different woman. They got married and had one child together. He’s still with her to this day.

At the same time, his kids from his previous marriage would visit and stay with him during summers and over school breaks.

“I thought they enjoyed the summers. They built go-karts and raced them one year, and we were always camping, etc.,” he detailed.

His eldest eventually dropped out of high school, and his two younger sons moved in with him and his wife to finish their final years of high school.

And now, all of his children have grown up. They’ve had kids of their own, and he is now a grandfather to 10 grandchildren– who are all starting to grow up, too.

He, on the other hand, is slowly dying. He still has both good and bad days, but the good ones are becoming more rare.

“My youngest son, from my current marriage, called my second youngest for support after having dealt with me on a particularly bad day,” he explained.

“My youngest thinks his older brothers hold a great deal of resentment toward him for being my ‘replacement family.'”

Moreover, his kids from his previous marriages are resentful because he left them with his ex-wife as a mother– who did not spend the child support money on necessities, like electricity or even running water.

Now, he has not yet spoken to his oldest kids about what he learned from his youngest. And he’s not even sure if he should bring the conversation up to them or let his sons come to him.

“I also felt justified in my decision, but I am no longer sure I’m at peace with it,” he vented.

So, he can’t help but wonder whether leaving his wife and kids– even after what happened– was the wrong thing to do.

Can you understand why he wanted to get away from his ex-wife? Even so, was it fair to leave his oldest kids behind in an unstable situation? Do you think he should open the floor and talk to his children while he still can? What would you do? 

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