He Agreed To Be The Best Man At His Dad’s Second Wedding, But He Doesn’t Want To Cover His Own Travel And Attire Costs
This 25-year-old guy’s father, who is 55, will be getting married for the second time in one month. So, he was asked to be the best man.
However, he and his father have a strained relationship, and they don’t interact much aside from engaging in some small talk on the phone.
Apparently, they used to argue a lot while he was growing up, and it was his father’s “controlling nature” that ultimately pushed him away.
Still, despite their relationship not being the best, he didn’t feel like he could turn down his father’s request for him to be the best man.
That’s why he agreed, but there is just one problem. He currently lives a whopping 5,000 miles away, which means that getting to the wedding will be very expensive. Not to mention, he will be forced to use all of his saved-up vacation time from work.
“For months, I’ve told my dad that I can visit. I just asked that he cover my flight and tuxedo, which he agreed to do,” he explained.
“I thought this was fair because I’ve previously flown back to visit family on my own dime twice in the past three years.”
His dad, on the other hand, has yet to spend money on visiting him– even though his dad has gone on over 10 vacations to other destinations.
Well, in spite of their original agreement, his dad has begun trying to guilt trip him into paying for both his travel expenses and his tuxedo. In fact, they aren’t even able to talk on the phone anymore without the topic coming up and them getting into a huge argument.
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His dad has claimed that everyone else at his wedding will be paying for their own formal attire and travel costs.
“But I feel that I had no choice but to be in his wedding, and I should not be obligated to any additional cost,” he reasoned.
“And being his second wedding, I feel that the cost of their wedding is frivolous.”
It’s also crucial to mention that he himself is engaged right now, so he is trying to focus on paying for his own wedding. Plus, he doesn’t expect his father to be in the wedding and foot the bill for any associated costs.
So, he thinks that his father has some ulterior motives for asking him to be the best man.
“I feel like my father doesn’t really care to see me. He rather just wants the social credit of people thinking, ‘Aw, his son flew halfway across the globe to see his father, that’s sweet,'” he revealed.
“He hardly shows any interest in my life, so why do I need to put so much effort in to show interest in his?”
Still, after being hit with so much pushback from his father, he’s not sure whether not wanting to cover the costs to attend his dad’s wedding really does make him a jerk.
Can you understand why he doesn’t want to foot the bill to be at his dad’s wedding? Does it matter if other people at the wedding are paying for their own expenses if his dad originally agreed to do it for him? What would you do in this situation?
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