This 27-year-old woman has been married for a year. She and her husband have been together for three years in total, and while their relationship has been healthy and stable, they’ve had some differing perspectives, but they’ve always been able to talk things out and accept each other’s views.
“The only thing that seems to be a stumbling block in this regard is the topic of kids. I’m ambivalent about the idea of kids,” she explained.
“I love kids and being an aunt to my nieces and nephews, but I don’t have this burning desire to have children of my own.”
However, if her husband deeply wanted to have children, she would consider the idea. But she only likes spending time with children in smaller doses, and she happily returns children to their parents at the end of the day. She does believe she would be a good parent, but it’s never been one of her dreams throughout her life.
Over the course of their relationship, they discussed children and talked about it again once they got engaged, but her husband never seemed to have an issue with the fact that she wasn’t sure she wanted to have children.
“Recently, while over for dinner with my in-laws, my mother-in-law asked about when we’d start trying, and I made a joke about us as newlyweds doing a lot of trying without hoping for any success,” she shared.
For the rest of the dinner, her husband was silent, and at first, she thought it was because of the joke she had made.
Once they got home, she kept asking him what was wrong until he finally opened up to her about what was on his mind.
“He admitted he thought my stance would change once we got married,” she said. “I reiterated that I’m not completely against children if he’s passionate about it, but he doesn’t think we should bring life into the world without us both being enthusiastic about it.”